I think you are taking a very superficial view of gender performance by focusing on the results instead of the causes.
I think it’s silly to say restrictions on men is of all things misogyny. If I tell a woman she has a strong jaw, solid and wide shoulders, and a flat chest is it misandry if she sees that as an insult? If I tell her she is loud and deep throated then is it misandrist if she balks at my “complements”?
Viewing gender as a scale between masculine and feminine is absolutely incorrect. You can be both masculine and feminine, just masculine, just feminine, or neither. Men don’t get ridiculed for being feminine, they get ridiculed for being unmasculine. It’s extremely myopic to attribute anything that harms women or men as misogyny.
The reason women can wear pants but men cannot wear dresses is because one is harmless while the other can be a reproductive dead end. I’m not sure you will be able to understand why though given that you only consider society from the perspective of androgynous women, let alone men or feminine women (whom generally love wearing dresses).
