Why Do Men Put So Little Effort Into Serious Dating?
Emma Lindsay
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Why Do Men Put So Little Effort Into Seriously Dating *ME*

The common factor in my dating failures is not women, it’s me. The common factor in your dating failures is not “man-children”, it’s you. Your men aren’t masculine enough? You’re probably not feminine enough yourself, then. You assume you are already a good catch because you have the qualities you want in a man. And if you want to date yourself, that’s perfectly fine.

But if you want to date other people, or at least men with certain qualities, you have to bring qualities of your own that they will appreciate. If you find you cannot be picky with men, that’s only because you don’t bring enough perceived value to the table. Can you walk into a car dealership to trade in your car at whatever price you declare it’s worth?

When a woman says she’s not looking for a relationship, that often means she’s not looking for a relationship with you. When a man says he’s not ready for kids, that he’s not ready for kids with you. If you want the most feminine status that is motherhood, you’ll probably have to buy into the whole femininity thing a little.

By the way, for some of those men, hooking up with a 20 year-old woman is absolutely a lot easier when they’re 50 than when they were 20. They’ll probably still be able to knock her up, too. Meanwhile the reverse is a newsworthy event.

If you think men and women are playing the same game when it comes to reproduction, you’re at such a disadvantage there’s a good chance you’ll die alone — but at least men and women are equal in this.