You are correct in that I was hostile — as a result of reading the sources. I forgot that only feminists get to make broad sweeping claims about half the human population by cherry picking feminist studies done by feminists based on feminist methods to produce feminist results funded by feminist grants to be published in feminist papers. Such a broad generalization on such fragile methodology would be labeled as outright hate speech if it was applied to Muslims, black men, poor people, etc. But because it supports feminist theories, it’s completely ok.
I thought tone policing was not a legitimate criticism. But maybe we are going with the usual “It’s ok when we do it” because you know you are Right (facts be damned!)