Tell It Like A Lesbian

Dear Tell It, My girlfriend and I are considering taking the next step in our relationship and becoming “partners” but we’re concerned that it’s too soon. We’ve only been together for about a year. This, for me, is our next step toward marriage, which I want, but I want to be sensitive to her timeline as well. She has a rough history with relationships that peaked too soon. What should we do? Sincerely, Do We Get A U-Haul?

Dear U-Haul,

First of all, congratulations on being together for a year! That’s huge. And second, agreeing to take the next step is a huge decision, one which has its pros and cons. Because of your girlfriend’s history, it would be in your best interest to talk to her about it. Ask her about the concerns she has so that you can address them if something similar might occur between the two of you. It would also be prudent to discuss your future, beyond this next step. If you see this as a step closer to marriage, the two of you must come to an agreement that marriage is where you both wish to end up. Partnership is an exciting step and one that requires equal input from both sides to make sure all concerns are being voiced. And to make sure you’re not reserving the U-Haul too soon.


Dear TILAL, I’m done with online dating. Cannot stand it anymore. I find that people are too flaky, don’t look like their photos, or are lying just to get a hookup. What’s a girl to do?! Sincerely, Tired of Typing

Dear Tired of Typing,

Alternatives to online dating are harder to come by, especially when everyone seems to want to date exclusively through a screen, but alternatives do exist. If you live in a relatively large city, find out if there’s a gay-friendly bar or restaurant that you can check out, and start by making conversation with the other patrons. If you’re into sports, some cities have local leagues for soccer or softball, and someone might be trying to put together a team of LGBTQ participants. If there’s no queer team, it’s a great way to make friends, and one of those new friends might have queer friends who are single and ready to mingle. Hang in there, Tired of Typing, love is out there somewhere.

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