Bless you, Flylady

Note to self: Take time to stop and smell the flowers. Photo credit Insideout

I came home after my trip last weekend to discover the party we were going to have, the one we cancelled, is back on. Now I have about a week until “anywhere from 5 to 150 people” descend upon my yard. My very, very large yard.

And, once again, my inner perfectionist is trying to worm her way into my head.

Between the looming doctor visit, preparing to go back to work, and now this, I had my moments, that’s for sure. But, I think I’ve got it all under control now.

When the going gets tough, the tough go back to Flylady.

Flylady, Marla Cilley, has a free online group for (mostly) women who are either totally disorganized, or people like me, who are so prone to perfectionism, they find themselves spinning in circles. She is corny and hokie and over-dramatic, but her tricks work.

I won’t describe her system in detail…I don’t follow it PERFECTLY. But I’ve carried her “I can do anything for 15 minutes” philosophy with me for almost ten years now, and it’s literally changed my life.

When I wanted to build a consistent exercise habit, I promised myself at least 15 minutes, five days a week…and now I’m closer to forty. When I tackle a huge project at work, I promise myself 15 focused minutes, and shit gets done. When my yard seems out of control, I pick one task and stick with it for at least 15 minutes, and like magic, it ends up looking much nicer. I can vacuum my house in 15 minutes if I don’t get sidetracked. I can get a lot of deadheading done in 15 minutes if I don’t wander off. I can plan a lesson in 15 minutes if I stay away from Medium.

I can put away my clean dishes in three!

Overall, I am just way more relaxed about things than I used to be…as long as I don’t forget.

So, for the last few days, I’ve been alternating fifteen-ish minute increments…house, yard, teacher stuff, yard, me-time, yard, writing, yard…

You get the idea.

Add some healthy food, lots of water, and a short interval workout every other day, and I think I can easily get it all done…

And still have plenty of time to enjoy the rest of my break.