It’s more likely my ex didn’t show up because there was a warrant out for his arrest. He was frequently in trouble.
The thing is, when we first split up, I tried. He didn’t have a vehicle, so I took her to see him. We met in a public place, close to where he lived. He spent the entire time, every time, trying to convince me I needed him…instead of visiting with his daughter. It didn’t go unnoticed by her.
He became more and more desperate, but it wasn’t until he started calling and showing up at my work and threatening me and my boss (not to mention the gun incident), that I ran.
Even after the divorce was final, I kept in touch with his parents (with an alternate mailbox address, an address he could have used too, if he had cared to), and even took my daughter to see them on several occasions, until they started telling him I was coming and he’d be waiting when I got there. I understand he deserved time with his daughter, but since I let her spend the night with them, they could have just as easily called him after I left. He scared the crap out of me, and I couldn’t do it anymore.
I feel nothing but pity for him, however I have much compassion for you, your brother, and your entire family.