What I think about Conflicts in a Relationship?
We all fight with our partners. The reasons, frequency, and duration of these fights vary from person to person. However, it is important to remember that the world is not perfect and there are no perfect relationships. There will always be some flaws, misunderstandings, and disagreements.
It is easy to get offended and break up rather than sit down and discuss the problem. We often have some pride that prevents us from saying, “I was wrong. Let’s figure out how to solve this problem together.”
Instead, we start yelling at our partners, not talking to them for weeks, or simply holding in all of our resentment and then releasing it by physically or emotionally hurting them.
So, what do you do if your partner is at fault and doesn’t apologize?
Believe me, the last thing you want to do is prolong the drama. Go to reconciliation first, discuss what you don’t like, and listen to your partner (what is their problem?) — and just try not to hurt your partner, if you know that he or she doesn’t like something categorically, just stop doing it. After all, imagine how you would feel if your partner didn’t take your wishes into account?
Compare everything to yourself, is it painful? And how painful is it for another person?
But there are times when a person simply doesn’t care about your feelings, requests, or problems. A year goes by, and you wait for changes. Two years go by — nothing changes, and the partner doesn’t hear you. However, it’s better not to wait that long, because your time is slipping away. In this case, I’m sorry to disappoint you, but a partner who isn’t interested in you, who doesn’t care about your problems, is not good for you. You must consider ending such a relationship. I firmly believe this person just doesn’t deserve your attention.
This does not apply to minor things, as I will remind you that we are all imperfect and if you look for flaws in everything, you will be looking for a partner all your life, and you will not be able to find an ideal partner. And in the end, what awaits you: children are somewhere far away — busy with work and relationships, there is no partner, friends have dispersed …. You are left alone …
In fact, relationship problems are not as difficult as they seem if you really treat your partner as yourself. And believe me, your partner who really cares about you will be very grateful.
If you have stopped feeling love after 10 years, then I will reveal a secret to you, love is not a feeling. It is what we do for our partner — this is how true love manifests itself. When we give, we receive more — and it has always been this way. As soon as we stop giving to our partner (attention, care, affection), a bad feeling comes. The feeling that I probably don’t love anymore, I stopped feeling love …. And begin look for new partner, i think that really wrong. How much you have a time was with this partner, how much problem together make decided?
And so it will happen every time, when you change a partner. Until you realize that while I care, give my time, — I love.
Here are some tips for handling fights in a relationship:
1 . Take a step back. It’s important to cool off before you try to talk to your partner about the fight. This will help you avoid saying or doing anything you’ll regret.
2. Talk about what happened. Once you’ve both calmed down, it’s time to talk about what happened. Be honest about how you felt and why you reacted the way you did.
3. Listen to your partner. It’s important to hear your partner’s perspective, even if you don’t agree with it. Try to understand why person felt the way (he or she) did.4. Apologize if you’re wrong. If you were wrong, be the bigger person and apologize. This will show your partner that you’re willing to work on the relationship.
5. Find a compromise. In most cases, there’s no right or wrong answer to a fight. Try to find a compromise that both of you can agree on.
Remember, fighting is normal in any relationship. However, it’s important to handle fights in a healthy way. By following these tips, you can learn to fight fair and come out stronger on the other side.