Friendship — A sweet responsibility, never an opportunity.

Having lots of friends is good, but those friends who care of you, who respond to you whenever you need them are the blessing. But it is not easy to always have friends who are always there for you. Firstly, you need to give your time, energy and effort to them to make them realize that “they are special for you”

Question is how starting making friends? Dale Carnegie in his book “How to Win Friends & Influence People” answers this question in a way “If we want to make friends, let’s greet people with animation and enthusiasm.” This will show your passion and energy toward them, and make you different from the mob. Next thing is spend your time on them, contact them, take some time from your busy routine and meet them for having a tea or ice-cream.

If I tell you, how I have lots of friends; I put myself at their disposal. I spend time on them, I always be there to help them. However the one way is to stay in contact with them via mobile messaging, messenger. Now it’s happen that when I unable to text them, they call or text me to ask “kdr ho yaar (where are you dude)”

Lets discuss another way to make friends, that is last week I get an assignment in my fellowship where I have to text my friends. In this assignment the instruction included; you just have to ask about them and in response if they ask about yourself, response them but again put a question that is related to them. For this purpose I text me many of my friends. They all respond me and chat duration keep on increasing. Here I am going to share only few response from one chat:

Me (to my friends): Assalam-o-alaikum, What’s going on? How Ramzan (fasting) is going?

Friend: W.salam, nothing special, and Ramzan is going well Alhmdolillah! You tell?

Me: How preparation for thesis VIVA is going?

Friend: hahaa, preparation will be just one day before VIVA :P.

Me: haha exactly, then what you do for whole day?

Friend: sleep, sleep and just sleep. When you will start preparation for M.Phil entry test?

Me: After Eid, we will start preparation for entry test. Have you started applying for jobs?

Friend: No, they need experience. I searched a lot on net but they need experience.

Me: Do you have account on Rozee.pk?

Friend: No account, but I searched job on this portal. When you come to know about any project or internship do tell me. I mean recommend me, tell me.

Me: yes, why not.

Friend: Thank you, and please also tell me when the VIVA would be, and GRE will be.

Me: Okay, will inshAllah.

This was my last message from our last conversation on text message. Although you were thinking that this is baseless conversation and it has nothing to do with relation. But relations are basically need, needs are relations. They spend time on me and I spend time on them, it not only give us satisfaction but a kind of feeling that you have people around you, who care about you. This is the only required result of each relation. Remember, “Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity.”