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Getting out of a bad relationship is the real Christmas miracle

When Pete handed me the gift, I was hesitant. It felt like a tiny stack of note cards. The wrapping paper had nothing to grip and whatever was contained within slid around alarmingly. In an instant, I knew what he had given me.

At that same moment, I decided to breakup with him.

I’m a sucker for the holidays. The lights, the music, the trees, the incessant smell of cinnamon in the air, I love it all. Mostly, I enjoy exchanging gifts. …


They don’t have to be abusive to be bad for you

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I felt Tim fall into the bed next to me. I pretended to be asleep. I heard him give a big sigh. Then another. He poked me on the shoulder.

“You awake?”

“I am now.”

“Oh sorry. I’ll let you sleep.”

He said it like it was a kind favor, but his inflection indicated disappointment and sadness. I could go to sleep…but that sigh told me he’d stay awake, staring at the ceiling or scrolling through his phone mindlessly until he drifted off. I sat up. “It’s OK. Everything alright?”

“Ugh. It’s never alright.”

Here we go.

As a culture, we talk a lot about physically and emotionally abusive partners. The ones who bruise our bodies and minds with fists or words. The ones who keep us away from our friends. The ones who insist that we are lucky to have them despite all the evidence to the contrary. Those are the ones you hear about most and are taught to be on the look-out for. …


Make more money by focusing on less platforms

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After losing my job in June, I felt like I was spiraling out of control. I had a bit of money saved. But how was I going to find a new job that could pay our insane rent? The fear nearly drowned me until my partner reminded me to breathe. He told me, “Focus on the art stuff, I’ll cover us until we move.”

I didn’t argue. I immediately dived into the world of passive income to find which paths were right for me.

I’ll publish my eBooks on Amazon

I’ve got a confession to make. I write children stories in my free time. My nieces and nephews love to read my little tales. I realized I wanted to put more effort into putting those stories out there. After taking a class in children’s book construction, I felt I understood the format, or at least enough to explain to an illustrator on Fiver what kind of illustrations I wanted. …


I should know since I do it nearly every year

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Last year on December 31st my partner asked if I wanted to go out with him and a bunch of friends. I told him I was good. He knew I wasn’t feeling up to it, so he gave me an early New Year’s kiss and headed out. I spent New Year’s Eve alone.

I know, it sounds sad. The world likes to assume that a woman home alone on a Saturday, on a holiday no less, drinking wine and eating her way through a pizza, is somehow the saddest human ever. But there’s nothing sad about it. That’s my dream night. …


The story of John List, family annihilator

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On December 7th, 1971, police and neighbors broke into the List’s large home after being alerted to the children’s long absence from school and reports of every light in the house going off one by one for a month. The moment they forced a window open the smell of putrid decay overtook them. Wandering through the house, handkerchiefs covering their noses, the police found four bodies in the ballroom. Another body remained upstairs. John was nowhere to be found.

Instead of finding his body, they found his face cut out from every family photo and a 5-page letter. In it, John stated that he murdered his family to save their souls. Unfortunately, suicide was a sin, so he couldn’t join them. …


He told me I was being a prude

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Too many partners in the bedroom wasn’t for me, in my limited experience. To be fair, I’d seen my own parent’s marriage combust under the weight of their attempts to maintain an open marriage. So I had reason to be concerned. Yet there was also my own personality to consider. I prefer monogamy, 1 partner. Simple, or as simple as love can ever be for me. I know others who’ve managed polyamory well. However, I had no desire to attempt that type of relationship.

This was what I explained to a boyfriend after he brought up the subject. He was honest. There was a third he was interested in bringing into our relationship and wanted to know if I was keen. I’ve no doubt he expected me to say yes, as I often did to his suggestions. …


Popular trends in 2021 (maybe)

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2020 has been a rough year. Yet start afresh in 2021 and build a business empire. Not sure what to do? Just use 2020 to inspire you. Because all the things that happened this year will affect what people (and their pets) will desire in 2021.

Mask-to-quilt online courses

There will a surplus of masks soon. Will you be in a position to meet the demand for the environmentally conscious desire to not condemn them to the landfill? Make the dumpster fire that was 2020 for many into a lasting memory they can pass on to future generations in the form of a quilt. Teach the techniques that will transform masks into an artful blanket. …


Being a Grinch isn’t as bad as being naive about your privilege

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The holidays are upon us and that means it’s time to be good to your fellow humans. Unfortunately, some have classist attitudes and mindsets that make that impossible. It’s one thing to feel the spirit of Christmas in your heart. It’s another to believe everyone else is able enjoy it in the same manner as you . So just in case, here are some ways to check your class privilege this Christmas.

Don’t assume everyone will be giving gifts

Christmas is my favorite season of the year. No small part of that is because I love to shower my friends with gifts. Usually, they are small, but each will be something I know they need, want, or will enjoy. However, I do not expect others outside of my household to give gifts. …


Stop treating hourly workers like cautionary tales

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There should be an agreement among working-class retail store managers. When anyone over 30 is interviewing for a minimum wage seasonal position, no one should ask them why want to work there. We don’t. Most of us are only there because something went terribly wrong.

This was the sentiment that came to mind as I trudged through a semi-busy mall. Many stores had a “HIRING SEASONAL WORKERS” sign in their window. I went into each one to ask for an application, or to be told I needed to apply online. …


The story of the Great Molasses Flood of 1919

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There are many terrible ways to die. Being boiled alive or drowning in thick, molasses is somewhere at the top of that list. Luckily for most of us, this fate is something that could only happen in our nightmares. This wasn’t the case for twenty-one people on January 15, 1919, in Boston.

Purity Distilling was a local Boston institution. The plant made and stored molasses, which was then enjoyed by many Americans. While we know it primarily as a sweetener, in 1919 molasses was used to make alcohol.

Then congress passed the prohibition.

Manufacturers raced to make as much alcohol as they could before the restrictions came into effect. Purity Distilling as well since the the factories could still legally produce the liqueur were using their premium product more quickly. This meant that their containers were filled more often, and to higher levels that they’d before been unused to. …

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Ella Figg

Bibliophile and lover of words. Interested in business, relationships, self and life lessons.

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