Feb 8, 2019
Are you nonconformist? or you just want approval for your ego? NO, you are just aligned with the new normal
There is lots of new definitions that have come with the self-defining labels, in the midst of polarizing political climate in the current age, the internet age has blessed with so much to learn about the socioeconomic and political, there's a thin line in the between the corridors who brings out potentials on the new moral code…
it is the non-conformists who bring forth the new ideas, creation and ways of living which produce a vibrant society… Nicholas Tesla
Going through twitter bios, the non-political aligning say they are not attached to any groups of the “normal people” or being attached to labels, I don’t know to which degree on how true their perspective goes , along with the high praise of being introvert (which I think at most times is the mentality of being an egoist and static to necessary flexibility ), the millennial age preference, in between defining who conformist and whos not come along lots of paradoxes. Twitter is like a city street full of avenues that fight side by side each side polices pokes noses on what other people are doing or tweeting, a place where people who little about themselves come to fight as if they sleep in the same house. Its a war of fighting on the keyboards.
Confirming is a liberating notion and it is however not for the faint-hearted, it is drawing line between on what you should take on regardless with what political or social spheres in place align with. We should, therefore, separate the new normal and non-conforming. You may be a black liberal queer feminist vegan Marxist that aligns to the new norms, which sometimes come with beliefs that malign those that don't agree with your beliefs or white capitalist conservative Trump boarder wall neo-nazi who and will still define your self as non-conformist, and you still don't internalize your privilege and oppression. No, you're not!!! You just changed your crowd to soothe your ego. IF dropping out school is what is right in the eyes of a non-conformist, it doesn't mean that every non-conformist must find okay because someone did it. The truth we are human we tend to take sides for our own favors even when we are sure they are the wrong things to do, for example, its normal that people will always seek out for their own people in regards to gender, race-ethnicity and class regardless the social and political standing. To be a non-conformist, you must be a hardliner
Not seeking approval from others or giving an opinion to other people’s lives or businesses, is one the many ways we may define a non-conformist. That means you do not have to run amock when a person you little about on the internet negative to you, you simply laugh it off. You do not form coalitions fighting against being policed whilst policing somebody's opinion, parade your army to whine and rebuke on all things you are not!! Means you are less more to that person that is subject to other people. The only difference is you are just doing it differently whilst seeking indirectly out what other people think of you and ask for their attention or permission. We know you post some pictures just for your narcissistic ego to seek approval that just fits in what everyone is doing. You always look into a person's words because they agree with what you believe in and boom, the non-conformist is conforming already
CONFORMITY; creates a new normal and new cool. some proclaimed non-conformist look at dropping out school cool, speaking informally because there are liberated, you may drop out college it doesn't necessarily mean you are to be like bill gates, sometimes you do an imitation. Which in itself. Needless to say, culture is brought about by the non conformists that bring about a new norm which is thus followed by other people in society, we have seen it with communism, religion, colonialism and other kinds of historical facts that are single-handedly started by one out of the box thinker that puts others in the box. We must, therefore, consider if a person non-conformity is to suit their agenda, not for the greater good
A person who rejects things just of the desire to be “different” still conforms to their life, like that or more traditional conformist of an external force, that being the crowd. Authenticity is therefore not the road with their flow of doing things that seek approval, in the due time they blame their problems to the entire society as if society at any point will ever be fair.
Let's get to some ways in which self-proclaimed non-conformists conform;
NORMATIVE INFUELENCE leads people to conform because they fear the consequences of appearing deviant. Early on, research showed that individuals who stray from a group’s norm are often disliked, rejected, and ridiculed. These negative social reactions can be hard to take. In a series of controlled studies, people who were socially ostracized by being neglected, ignored, and excluded in a live or internet chatroom conversation- reacted by feeling hurt, angry, alone and lacking in self-esteem. We rely on our in-group support to enhance our self-esteem, however conforming to beliefs that do not correlate with our own beliefs is not the way.
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. According to Cialdini, being able to resist the pressure of compliance rests, first and foremost, on being vigilant. If a stranger hands you a gift and then launches into a sales pitch, you should recognize the tactic for what it is and not feel indebted by the norm of reciprocity. And if you strike a deal with a salesperson who later reneges on the terms, you should be aware that you’re being thrown a low ball.”
THE CULTURAL HEROISM, culture is something that is very dynamic and evolves with time, economic success and agendas, for a sane person knows that there's nothing no such thing as cultural norms, NO its a bunch of ways that have been adopted over time and most of the times unconventional and self befitting and at most times irrational and where put to serve those with power, these cultures in most of the times just want to boost the egos of those in the upper echelons, looking at celebrities like they are gods, a self proclaimed a non-conformist will come at you on twitter if you say something anything negative or controversial about an artist they adore and worship, and at the same time become shocked if we find out their dirty laundry, Just like the way media used to worship R.kelly until the ugly side of him, social media bandwagons like to create the new conformist cultures . The pop culture has an influence on everyone due to the globalization and celebrity worship, they are concerned about what happens in celebrities' life and at the same time say you are not following anyone, the term minds your business only works. The only differences are with the followings with cultural and traditional conformity forms like religion, culture while the new conformists worship celebrities that penetrate media. It, therefore, answers the question of why companies use public figures to sell or market their products
THE ADOPTIONS, just like cultural heroism, behavior that doesn't relate to your society doesn't mean your non-conforming, you may be the person that speaks to your parents in English they don't know or follow any trends that come with the mode, or wants to live like , the phrases “like I don't care” are just often misinterpreted because it defines the level of responsibility of a non conformist. A person who is absorbed by what other people do in another place not necessarily where they live. Most of the people that have been in the diaspora come back in the country with questioning behavior label themselves non-conformists because they think they have a bit of exposure which in most cases they just find a new cognitive to conform to, they therefore take aim and critique what their society does in the sense of saying they have live passed it, we should define between being unbecoming and being a pathetic person to society. You can equally claim to be different and still worse than you were, different doesn't assure cool or good
THE COLLECTIVE, like i, said people always look for people they agree with, collective spaces or communities are always societies in which at most times people go to feel victimized or superior in other words what suits their egos This also means that a person won't be personally responsible for their actions, its an entire bandwagon of doing things sometimes without reason or personal responsibility is undermined. For those that feel society on their side, they are often blindfolded by their privilege and quick to dismiss their wrongdoings and taking in accountability for their actions, for those otherwise at a leap of seeking for a voice, at most times escape what is supposed to be personal responsibility to blame it on society, following a new different kind of norms that are far from being called a nonconformist.
“there exist a plethora of individuals who desire to persecute and bring down who rise in the mediocre mass, masking their envy with the mask of equality” Nietzsche.. good beyond evil”
OBEDIENCE OR FOLLOWING THE LAW, In conflict with the law, lots of people define non-conformity as breaking the laws, to create new ways, the conflict comes when you break the old law to follow the new cool law of the different sphere of conformity. Say a person may abandon one religion to follow a new religion with both use the same kind of ideology and philosophy. Many in this age call non-conforming because the old traditional religions don't full fill their interests and go on to follow the beliefs that still makes them attached. On the other hand, the old normal where some laws can’t work the new normal. And therefore their sanity jumps from one dimension to another
True non-conformity, in contrast, is displayed to the degree that one's life path, and this character, are shaped by behaviours, beliefs and values which are chosen for personal or authentic reasons
It, therefore, doesn't come as a shock that in the age of non-conformists comes along increased mental health and depression. The permissive energy that comes along trying to prove the entire world that you don't conform to their beliefs is in itself reversely conforming and the shocking part is, along with the utopian nature of the everyday narratives from the internet age makes lots of people from this age escape the real world.
