Published inMind Cafe·Oct 24, 2023Living With the Green-Eyed Monster:Accepting Social Comparisons as Part of Life and Using it as Motivation, not Discouragement. — As you scroll through your Instagram feed you see that an old college friend had just gotten married and had a magical (and expensive!) wedding with the handsome love of her life. She is in good shape, she is beautiful, she has flawless skin and an amazing wardrobe to boot. …Self Improvement6 min readSelf Improvement6 min read
Sep 6, 2023How We Regain A Sense of Agency Over Our LivesWhy our self-agency is important and how to instill it into our lives. — These couple of years of pandemic, civil strife and natural disasters have left many of us feeling like our sense of agency has been removed from us. We feel like life is controlling us and not the other way around. Over the last few years, there have been many protests…Self Improvement7 min readSelf Improvement7 min read
Feb 27, 2023Forget Positive Thoughts, Acceptance Is The Key To A Happier You.Negative thoughts and emotions are a part of life and when we learn to accept them rather than avoid them, we can learn to be happier. Our lives are fraught with changes, one day we are happy, we get the job we want, we meet our soulmate and the next…Happiness5 min readHappiness5 min read
Published inMind Cafe·Jun 8, 2022Why We Self-Sabotage and How Not ToFears lead us to sabotage ourselves but we can conquer this with a few steps. — As I am staring at the blank page on the computer screen, I have an overwhelming urge to go do the laundry, wash the dishes, make yet another cup of tea. Anything, anything else but think about what to write. Am I procrastinating? …Self Sabotage6 min readSelf Sabotage6 min read
Published inMind Cafe·May 19, 2022Why We Make Poor Choices and How to Make Better OnesThe solution lies in simplifying our choices and changing our identity. — Poor choices are often made in a split second. For example, when we hear people talking about the poor choices they’ve made such as cheating on their spouse, people often say that “it just happened”. When we think about our own poor choices like bingeing on yet another takeaway meal…Self Improvement7 min readSelf Improvement7 min read
Published inMind Cafe·Feb 28, 2022Why We Self-Criticize And How To Be Kinder To OurselvesThe key to self-compassion is through practicing mindfulness. — Have you heard of Quitter’s Day? Apparently, it is the day that most of our New Year’s resolutions or goals fall by the wayside. The exact dates that we are most likely to negate on our goals seem to differ depending on whom you ask. In general however, researchers agree…Self Criticism6 min readSelf Criticism6 min read
Published inMind Cafe·Jan 25, 2022Why We Settle for Less When We Deserve So Much MoreThe good news is we can choose not to settle by reframing our thoughts. — We all know people who have settled for less when they deserve so much more. We know of friends, relatives who took back their unfaithful partners or settled for people who do not make them happy. …Life Lessons5 min readLife Lessons5 min read
Published inMind Cafe·Oct 16, 2021Things “R” Us: Why We Buy ThingsTurns out not all purchases are bad for us. — As the cashier at Zara rang up my items and told me the total, I gulped a little. Oh boy, I didn’t realized I had picked up that many things. I was almost tempted to stop her and just walk away without buying anything. May I also remind you that…Shopping6 min readShopping6 min read
Published inMind Cafe·Sep 11, 2021When Doing More Means Achieving LessHow our fear of not achieving makes us miss out on living. — I have a confession to make, I am a recovering productivity junkie. Productivity on the surface seems like such a positive thing. We set goals, we achieve them and we feel great. The truth is, many of us use productivity as a means of escape from the real problems at…Productivity6 min readProductivity6 min read
Published inMind Cafe·Jun 15, 2021More Than Just Wishful Thinking: How Having Hope Helps You Live BetterAs it turns out, hope is more of a process and less wishful thinking. — Hope: noun: A feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen verb: want something to happen or be the case Hope is something that we have all experienced, we hope to get good grades in school, we hope that that the cute guy at work will notice…Hope6 min readHope6 min read