I didn't know that Mormons baptised dead people. You learn something new everyday.
But I agree with your post. I saw an interview with American actor Morgan Freeman recently in which he illustrated what you are saying very well. He said he would like people to stop making such a big issue out of race and he was clear that all of these so called “awareness raisers” were actually making the problem worse, not solving it.
In my experience, the only people I have ever encountered who actually care that much about race, or make judgements on others based on skin colour, are so called black activists and their white hipster “allies” even more; usually the privileged campus types who would not recognise the “oppression” they speak about if it fell on their empty little heads.