Choose It.

Will the bird eat the fish? It has a choice. You do too. Belize — 2016

How much are you choosing what is?

So often, we spend time working towards our goals. Working towards, what we want to create. We’re creating a more beautiful, successful, and abundant future. This is all very important. And yet, there is something that I have found to be even more important : choosing exactly what is, exactly right now.

Choosing our current job.

Choosing our current title.

Choosing our current salary.

Choosing our current partner.

How about our current location? Yes, that too.

Choose your current life. Period.

I used to believe that choosing what is, was somehow an excuse for not working towards a brighter future. Recently, I am very present to the exact opposite.

Have you heard of the law of reversed effort? Alan Watts talks about this law in his book, The Wisdom of Insecurity, which I am reading as I work remotely from Belize this week.

Here’s the main gist : the less your try, the more is created. This “law” isn’t new. In fact, it’s one of the oldest and wisest ideas in the world, one that Lau Tzu talks a great deal about in the Tao Te Ching ( my go to for wisdom.)

So how does this law have to do with my success in life and business you might be wondering?

When I don’t want a vacation — I know I’m choosing my current life.

When I feel I have enough — I know I am choosing my current circumstances.

When I’m in flow and say yes to the universe, and it says says yes back, by consistently introducing me to people, and opportunities — I know I am choosing my current state.

Choosing my life has consistently led me to create even more than I ever imagined was possible. AND — do so peacefully.

Because I know what it’s like to have a fancy title and a fat paycheck and be miserable. So if that’s what you’re seeking, you might want to stop reading. If however, you’re searching for a richer and more fulfilling experience of life, of career, of relationship and of ultimately of, “success” … please read on.

I’m 30 years old, and I have created the freedom to work from anywhere in the world, and make more per hour than I’ve ever made. I’m sharing this because I want you to know that if I can do this, so can you. The daughter of immigrants; an immigrant myself, my family literally had $300 as we arrived in the USA 24 years ago, and yet here I am, living the “American Dream” — my version of it anyway. And guess what? It was not easy. It took a lot of hard work, and if I had to sum it all up, I would say what got me here was a series of choices.

Do you know how many jobs I wish I would have chosen before I got here?

Many. Over 30.

If I had chosen them, rather than fought them, I bet I would have found greater peace and gotten here sooner. This is the irony and it became crystal clear to me this week working from Belize. I share this because I want everyone to discover and create their most authentic life, with as much peace as possible. I want this for everyone because I love people and believe that more fulfilled and successful people will save our planet.

And this is where choice comes in big time.

Try this on:

The moment you embrace what you’re fighting, it ceases to be a problem.

While this is an incredibly simple theory, it is in fact not easy to embrace, living in a society that teaches us the exact opposite from a young age.

So I spent years fighting for what I wanted and believed in. And again, I’m glad I did it because it still brought me here. It’s just been a very tumultuous journey. At times, it took so much struggle and was so painful getting here, that having discovered the remedy means it’s my duty to share.

Choice is the remedy you’re really searching for.

Your job sucks? Choose it. Own it.

Your boss sucks? Choose it. Own it.

You don’t have enough money? Choose it. Own it.

Instead of saying to yourself and others, “ I don’t make enough to buy that car I want.” Try, “ I make enough to have a car ( and so much of the world doesn’t) and I’m excited to make even more, soon.”

If I could go back the only thing I would do differently is actually choose my current circumstances, as I worked on creating new and more exciting ones. The easiest and most practical way to do this, is to actually tell yourself a more powerful story.

I get to go to work today VS. I have to go to work today.

I get to sit at a desk today VS. I hate going into the office.

For as long as I can remember I have said, “what if ?”

This little voice is what inspired me to leave many a desk behind, in search of well, my office on the beach at the moment. But this really isn’t about an office on the beach. It’s truly about creating a habit of gratitude and abundance, no matter what the circumstances might be. Because everything is impermanent, and we’re very lucky to get the chance to be here at all.

When you choose this moment, you choose your self and your life. At first, it might seem crazy to choose “this,” when this feels terrible, scary or painful. And yet, when you start choosing what is, and discover the power that rests in living in this space, it feels crazy to live any other way. So try it on, will u?

It might take a while to trust your choice. I still struggle to choose what is at times, and yet the time it takes me to get back to gratitude is shrinking. I trust myself faster. This in fact is the only thing that I commit to doing faster in my life — trusting and loving myself. This is the true abundance I’ve been searching for all along. Everything else can slow down.


So ask yourself what in your life that you are fighting you can choose, right now, this very moment. See what opens up, and how things unfold.

I saw today, as I was swimming with sharks and diving in a beautiful ocean in Belize, that when I try to go down, I float back up.

The more you fight reality, the more you lose. So let yourself win, will you? The world actually wants you to win. So slow it down, choose what is, and keep creating your most __________ life.

Fill in whatever inspires you.


-published on LinkedIn 4/2016