Mental Strength

How mentally strong are you?

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Frivolous Sunday musings

What if there was a way to measure mental strength? Would you consider yourself mentally weak or strong? Where would you find yourself on the mental scale if one existed?

According to this article, these are the 6 habits that make us mentally weak.

1. Having a negative mindset.

Much of what I find myself writing about does tend to focus on the negative. In my “Badass women” series I’ll be doing, much of the woman’s accomplishments will be a direct result of or a reaction to evil people committing acts of unspeakable horrors and crimes. We could just narrow it down to men behaving badly.

My writings on politics is definitely in the negative. They are almost always in response to the American political clown show that we are subjected to.

For myself, I do find that by expecting the worst prevents me from experiencing chronic disappointment.

I think this checks out for me.

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2. Not expressing myself

In my day to day life, I do not express myself very much and at work, hardly at all.

The last 5 years I have come to the realization that I really don’t want to get close or bond with coworkers. I have the feeling that “Anything you can and will be used against you” at some point in the future. I don’t wish to join in on conversations because either they don’t pertain to me in any way or I’m going to open my mouth and say something that will either get me into trouble or label me as a troublemaker.

Everyone says that like truth but the moment you’re truthful, you’re the asshole all of the sudden.

My self expression is in my writing. I find it safer and more meaningful.

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3. Fantasizing instead of visualizing

Guilty

How many us by a show of hands can testify to endless daydreaming?

Anyone?

Just me?

Alrighty then.

I fantasize about many things like

Imagining walking up to Derek Chauvin as he knelt on the neck of George Floyd, grabbing him by the back of the shirt collar with left hand, slamming his face against the side of the police cruiser before grabbing him by the seat of his pants with the right hand and flinging him over the hood.

Or when the Patriot Front showed up to a transperson Pride event screaming and calling them pedophiles I would envision myself snatching away one of their nazi flags and start beating them with it and chasing them back to their cars all with out of state license plates.

Sigh

I could go on but you get the point.

One could say I fantasize too much and they are most likely correct.

I am sometimes plagued with intrusive random thoug…

He got joo joo eyeball

He one holy roller

He got hair down to his knee…. To a daydream believer

And a homecoming queen?

Hey don’t look at me like that. You knew what you signed up for when you clicked on my article🤨

Don’t judge!

Anywayyy…🙂

4. Not making time for personal relationships.

When it comes to personal relationships, I’m quite lacking in that one. Working 12–18 hour days doesn’t help in that department.

You already know how I feel about coworker relationships.

I think what puts me off about friendships is all the work and time you have to put in to maintain them. Time I really don’t have a lot of. Can you really be truthful and honest without compromising on who and what you are? Will you have to hold back?

I think George Carlin said it best:

“I love people as I meet them one by one. People are just wonderful as individuals. You can see the universe in their eyes if you look carefully, but as soon as they begin to group, as soon as they begin to clot, when there are five of them or even ten, even in groups as small as two, they begin to change. They sacrifice the beauty of the individual for the sake of the group.”

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5. Trying to control everything

I don’t believe I’m deficient in this area. As a matter of fact I find myself at the other end of the extreme: I’m in control of nothing and all his happenstancial chaos.

I would like to think that I am or at least get to the level that I am in control of my own destiny and maybe through this writing venue I someday will be.

Only time….

6. Worrying what others say and do

I can attest to this. I use to be quite fearful of other’s opinions of me to the point that I would try to modify my speech and behavior.

I’m at the point now where I’m able to block out others around me and just not care.

I will interact if someone needs my attention for any reason of course but I’m not actively seeking the engagement, if that makes any sense.

Welp!

That’s settles it.

I’m a mental jelly fish 😂

So, how did you do?

What did you get on your test?

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