LOVE & AFRICA
The instinct to choose is a basic human response , however highly placed a Nigerian woman, she is raised with the belief that choices or decisions are supposed to be made for her .
First by her father , and her boyfriend and eventually by her husband .
The man she winds up with must choose her , she cannot afford to be seen as desperate and worldly by choosing for herself .
She ought not to have preference of any kind .
She would not be permitted to speak freely …she would risk being seen as something that’s overused , “damaged goods” unlovable and undervalued if she ever sums up the courage to ask a man out on a date.
Love is mostly an ostentatious luxury in Africa , a luxury most couples can’t afford to entertain .
They would turn to convenience as a succour of a semblance of the real thing in an arrangement of exchanges .
Maria Marcills .