Gosh, thanks for responding. I’m so interested in what therapists know and how they see and how they do what they do. The one I’m working with now is a mystery to me. I don’t know how she does it. How she has such a big impact on me. She hardly says anything! LOL! I always have lots to say.
I worked with another therapist before and it was awful. So there’s a secret to good therapy and not all therapists know it. Same with writers. These things are subtle, and the subtlety is fascinating. Writing seems easier to learn how to do, for me. Maybe in my next life I’ll be a therapist. Or a parent…
I’ve thought a lot about what you bring up about what gets into the blog and not into the therapy room, and what happens in the therapy room that can’t happen with a blog. I don’t want to be sending my therapist secret messages through the blogs, things I can’t say in person. But of course, that does happen sometimes. I try to bring those things up when I catch them. And my therapist never comments on the blogs she reads, or tells me whether she’s read them or not, unless I ask specifically. That again is brilliant on her part, a perfect place to draw the line. Because whatever it is, whether I’ve written about it or not, I still have to bring it up in the room if I want it acknowledged.
Overall, I feel the blogging really helps me. It helps me get everything out of my mind so I can see it. It helps me move along during the week, digest what happened in the last session, make connections outside of the therapy room. Also, my therapist once observed that it was like I was doing that kind of therapy, I forget what it’s called, where you expose yourself over and over to a feeling in order to get inured to it. I’ve had such embarrassment issues, fears of exposing my vulnerability — I know it’s helping with that.
Anyway, thank you very much for your thoughts!