Human Expectations

S.Nadira
S.Nadira
Sep 7, 2018 · 3 min read

Human

= A human being.

Expectations

= A strong believe that something will happen or be the case.

A month ago, I set myself into a bubble called,

“Expectation”

It was set so high, that as soon as I heard the news that its not my call, I felt my heart had crushed into tiny pieces. It sucks. To the core. What sucks more is that, I thought I learnt my lesson, but no. I just keep getting hurt all along, for years.

“Don’t expect so much, you will be disappointed sometimes”, says people.

We often hear this statement don’t we? Well, I won’t deny its true. So tonight, I would like to break the bold words out.

EXPECT

We are all humans. Humans with heart. We go through paths that bends us emotionally and physically. We always think that we deserve many things. That is not entirely wrong. We deserve things in life. However, it may not come as easy as we think it would.

Our expectations determines our reality. And as human, we often jump into conclusions about the world we live in and same goes about who we are as a person. Like for example, when we happen to have a breakout on our face, let’s say a small pimple, by using Oxy’s pimple cream it would go off by tomorrow. What we don’t prepare ourselves to is maybe it might get worst because the cream is not suitable for our skin. I am not trying to tell you to not put the least of expectations because it would deny the human experience. We may, that shows the confidence we have in ourselves, but when it comes to the different aspects of expectations which impacts those around us, keep it minimum, never too much or too high because we do not want to get hurt and disappointed and thus blame ourselves as a reaction to our expectations.

DISAPPOINTED

When we get disappointed, we tend to tell ourselves how we wished we could change things or turn the time around. The thing is, we can’t. We can’t change things and that will remind us that we ought to be disappointed. However, we can chase away that feeling when we change ourselves. What do I mean? Habits. Or the way we react to things around us. We know ourselves better than anyone does. Change wisely. Not because we want to be someone new, it is because we want to learn to be better version of ourselves. Accept things as it is rather than how it should be, when it comes slapping across our face. Let go, embrace gratitude will we then regain the self happiness we deserve rather than trying to live to other expectations.

SOMETIMES

It doesn’t always suck. Life is wonderful too. Not always when you try to expect a little, the whole world comes crashing down. NO. It doesn’t always rain, sometimes there is sunshine too. We just need to learn to adapt to circumstances. Same goes to me. I am still learning day by day. Tell ourselves, we just need to reduce our expectations of how life should be for ourselves. By trying to reduce, we are doing it for our spiritual growth. Learn to draw a line between what you hope or expect about from life.

Expectations hurts when it comes with always, never, should and have to…

  1. I will always be there for you…

(Reality Check: we won’t)

2. I will never do this again…

(Reality Check: we will)

3. I should have done this instead…

(Reality Check: we are not sure)

4. I have to do this…

(Reality Check: we don’t always have to)

So, what do you expect?

S.Nadira

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