Let’s Get Interested!

Syed Hassan Ahmed
Nov 2 · 2 min read

Do you know how to make friends? No?
Have you ever wondered what is the key to someone’s heart?
Do you know what’s the quickest way to make someone become your friend? No?
Okay! Then let me tell you the magic step. It’s none other than being “Interested”. Weird, No?

Dane Carnegie, in his book said “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you” and guess what, It’s true. You can observe in your surroundings many people having some really interesting attributes and qualities, but they don’t have much friends. Why? Because these people keep on bragging about their own-selves, showing off how interesting they are. Whereas, people are just interested in one thing, that’s themselves. So if you want to win someone, you have to invest in them what they like most — Interest. Show them you’re interested in them.

I was greatly influenced by the book “How To Win Friends And Influence People” by “Dale Carnegie”. The way Dale beautifully described the concept of being Interested rather than being Interesting really motivated me to give this idea a practical experience. I tried spending couple of days just showing interest in people, asking them questions, listening to their stories and I was surprised by the results. The people whom I thought have a bare interest in me and who I thought I might not be able to befriend at least somewhere in near future, they opened up to me with things they might not have told their best friends even. Although I had to face some sort of difficulty in the beginning as it seemed a bit weird about just asking people about them and just listening to them, people were also thinking what has happened that you’re treating us so special. However, it was a really good experience listening. People were so happy and relaxed and it seemed like they were craving for something like this, having someone to listen to them. This experience led me to have so many new friends and made people impressed by me. In fact few of them started sharing their everyday happenings with me. I kept on listening and growing my circle, and realized that it’s something even I enjoy doing.

Hence, the major takeaway from this all was that “Compassion wins heart”. If you want to win someone’s attention or respect, show them that you’re interested in them.

Syed Hassan Ahmed

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Engineering student that loves cricket.

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