I agree with you entirely — which is why I wrote my book The Well Mannered Penis and donate large sums to charities who rescue and protect women and girls trafficked into sexual slavery. It is a desperately needed open conversation that all men who are lovely also need to have with women and with other men especially. Men want to be loved too but they have to go about it the right way, and women want to feel appreciated but they also have to go about ti the right way. we all — or mostly all — want great sex but for so many it is an endurance at best. SOOOOO sad.