You masc bro?

The terrible things gays say to each other.

So, you just met a cute guy on OkCupid, or Grindr, or Scruff, or whatever, and you’re having a pretty good chat, until he asks you this:

“Are you masculine?”

Ugh. Seriously? And this was going so well.

For me, this translates to:

“Yo, you’re not some sissy pixie boy are you?”

And it brings to mind a certain word that starts with an F that I can’t even type here. What if I say “no”? Are you going to block me and run off stating you’re just “not into fem dudes”? Probably. And to me, that just makes you an asshole.

And what does masculine even mean? According to Google the definition of masculine is:

Masculine: having qualities or appearance traditionally associated with men, especially strength and aggressiveness.

So, if we break it down, asking if someone is masculine is really asking them if they look like a man, are strong, and are aggressive. I understand that everyone has a type, but to explicitly ask someone if they fit into some hetero-normative societal stereotype is incredibly insensitive and rude. Why not meet the damn person and find out for yourself? And if you’re so worried about someone being “too fem” for you, then delete these stupid apps from your phone, put on some overalls, and head down to the local sports bar and hit on someone there. I’m sure the guys you meet in real life will really appreciate it when you ask them if they are masculine or not. Hopefully one of them hits you in the face hard enough to make you realize how awful you are.

Moral of the story: don’t be a prick.