To be Interested rather than Interesting:
Do you know about the Dale Carnegie’s book How to win friends and influence people. I refer to it as the best book on social media which was ever written in 1937.
“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”
What I’ve noticed is that in business networking and social media, too many people focus so hard on being interesting that they aren’t interested.
So here is a thought.
You go to business networking events for the sake of your own business? That’s why you joined a networking organisation, that’s why you get up at silly o’clock and drive for half an hour to have breakfast with people. You do that because you want to grow your business.
And yet often people forget that in what they say at networking events and how they follow up after the events.
If you accept that everyone is there for the sake of their business, then why not spend more time being interested in their stuff, than trying to make your stuff interesting to them? After all, you have already got the wind behind you rather than struggling to be interesting, you’ll be talking about a subject the other guy is already interested in. His stuff.
Someone asked me recently about following up after events and said that he always added people to a mailing list and then sent them “really interesting” content. But nobody read the Emails. Nobody ever got back to him.
You can’t force other people to be interested, but by being interested in their stuff you will a) win more friends as Mr Carnegie so beautifully explained and b) you will learn along the way exactly WHAT they are interested in, so you can craft your approach to fit that.
Business networking and social gives you so many opportunities to learn what the people around you are interested in. Just take time to listen before you broadcast. This is much more productive and is help in my professional career.
I asking question from friends, my friends feel happy with me and they talk all previous problems,secret and To days condition they are going. I enough learned through this survey. I feel friends problem,happiness, respect and trust.
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.