“Dear Mr. God,
How many people are in heaven?
They must be a lot.
Well I know a few, like my dad and Kester.
Why am I sick God? And why is my mum diabetic?
Those medicines stink.
I don’t know what it means to be happy God.
But most important of it all, I really just wish I could play football again.
I miss that the most.
She drops it in the postbox, and then the mailman picks it up for the umpteenth time still trying to figure how to deliver Anna’s letter which was addressed to God.
Like Anna, many of us seek for a huge theological treatise or an intellectual response in every jaw-dropping situation. We stare into a dark space hoping to see the unseeable, trying to know the unknowable. It is probably going to seem banal and inadequate by all standards, why the peripheral reasons behind tragedies are forever obscured from the human view.
Jesus was honest with us. He told us the blunt truth. — “…In this godless world, you will continue to experience difficulties…” states the message translation of the book of John chapter Sixteen verse Thirty-Three. Perhaps, this does not out rightly inform God to be the author of tragedy. Genesis chapter One verse Thirty-One makes us know this. (…and God looked over everything he had made, it was so good, so very good.) God made beautiful things, and you would rather agree with that tragedies are not so beautiful.
“Dear Mr. God,
I’m writing you today
Because it seems like lately
I’ve forgotten how to pray
I know you wouldn’t reply
But I’m writing it anyway.
Well I’m alright
But I can lie about that sometimes
All the same, you’re all I’ve got”
WHY ASK WHY?
Some believe that to question the bible, God’s decision or even God Himself is tantamount to blasphemy or, on a smaller scare, a sign of disbelief. I think there is a significant difference between questioning that brings wisdom and a fuller understanding of God and the kind of questioning that simply seeks to validate man and man’s ways. If your heart is humble before God, not self-righteous, and if you acknowledge God as being the one in control, then you might feel free to question, even if there wouldn’t be an answer.
I believe that God himself would be bothered if we never register our displeasures when tragedies happen. Even Jesus who knew about the prophecy questioned God when he was being nailed on the cross, “…My God, My God, why hast thou forsaken me? I cry by day and by night, but thou dost not answer to the words of my groaning…” Human beings also do not have mercury running through their veins, it is blood, and we have a nervous system that makes us sense feelings. A businessperson would not burst into laughter if he gets news of fire gulping his company. Only if a psychiatric condition probably just set in. Neither would a lady throw a party when her husband gets a death sentence for an offence he knows nothing about.
IT’S OKAY TO CRY.
Crying is not a sign of your weakness. A Lifehack report stated that, ‘confronting your emotions (especially the not-so-pretty ones) requires strength in the form of vulnerability’. Releasing your tears also helps you flush out toxins. The medical community describes crying as psychogenic lacrimation, they love big names over there. Just because you hold back your tears does not make you happy. Everyone can relate to that. A study performed by Dr. William H. Frey II at the St Paul-Ramsey Medical Centre found that feeling-related tears and tears cause by physical irritants are not the same. Tears that are provoked by feeling-conditions help your body rid itself of nasty chemicals that raise cortisol (the stress hormone).
In simpler words, you feel a whole lot better after the emotional down-pour passes. A Jewish proverb says “What soap is for the body, tears are for the soul.” Crying regulates us. It is the steam valve on the tea kettle. Jesus was not weak when he wept for Lazarus. Remember? So, grab a tissue if you need to. Let it go.