I DO stand up for myself and retaliate snark for snark when accosted. Sometimes I manage to speak intellectually enough to shame the aggressor. Sometimes I just lash back. So, of course, it’s all MY fault, in the end. I started it by being overweight and offending the sight of others. (WHATEVER!) But I feel better for standing up for myself whether people around me applaud or understand or not. The people telling you to improve your body image, etc? Yeah, it helps your confidence and you don’t have to feel so depressed about it. I’m very confident. But it doesn’t stop the attacks.