I’m sorry that’s been your experience. I wonder if this is an increasingly common occurrence across other groups as well. I’m left feeling disappointed by people in general, at this point.
Edit: I saw you mentioned in a comment to someone else that you thought the same probably happened in monogamous communities. Yeah, I think it does. And I wanted to be clear that the disappointment I mentioned was disappointment in our apparent inability to think of intimacy as something distinguishable from sex.