I'm glad you've found relief. When you say "wired like that" do you actually think your brain is wired differently than other human brains? I'm not trying to be contrary, but when it comes to addiction (all mental health "disorders"), I really struggle with the BIO arguments in the bio-psycho-social model. Despite what the "experts" tell us, biology plays a very small role in mental health struggles. I also write a lot about this topic. I'd be interested to know what you think.

Thank you. The very hardest thing about my trauma is the lack of recognition by others (even most therapists) that it doesn't exist or that it's not "that bad". You speak to my heart.

Thank you for recognizing the flaws in the mental health care system. I totally agree. There is a great deal of gaslighting in our system at all levels - and the gaslighting done by the mental health system can be the most damaging.

I feel this hard. My childhood nickname was the Mistake. It's brutal to fear being or making a mistake.

How unaddressed micro-aggression gets in the way of honest debate — oppression by the patriarchy at University College London. The ability to discuss and debate with people who hold very different views is not without its challenges, but having the tools, techniques and platforms to do so is a vital part of how communities can co-exist together. …

What was good about it? I believe this type of belief is the biggest barrier to recovery - believing (often unquestioningly) that a certain person or program is "doing right and good". This is 100% the problem with the "take the best and leave the rest" mentality of 12-step (AA…

Addiction = unhealthy PATTERN of behavior / continued pattern despite adverse consequence. The negative loops that play in my head (obsessive thinking) is why I believe moderation is a healthier choice than abstinence. Most people who abstain from one unhealthy pattern tend to trade it for another unhealthy pattern. The best way to deprogram from (unlearn) patterns is replacing them with healthier patterns.

“Women are afraid that men will kill them.” — Margaret Atwood Let that sink in. Women aren’t safe with men. Trans women aren’t safe with men. Trans men aren’t safe with men. Is Margaret implying that all women are victims and all men are abusers? Of course not, and so…

The struggle is real, but it is not unique. A "restless mind" is a symptom of the vast majority of mental health struggles and is becoming so ubiquitous that it's our "new normal". Apparently we all have ADHD. It's now much more common for people to have restless minds than to not have restless minds, but what sorts of people have restless minds? There is a growing movement that doesn't believe mental health struggles are illnesses or even disorders - they are symptoms (trauma responses) of a gaslighting, toxic society that has caused severe cognitive dissonance in the majority of us.