…tled me, or asked me to get their coffee. It’s not enough that I have the respect of my colleagues. At some point, the isolation becomes too much. In some ways, the isolation FEELS like being mistreated. There’s a reason solitary confinement is punishment in prison. To the companies out there, I’m telling you, at some point, you will lose some some women solely because they’re sick of the isolation. Because being an “only” sucks.
Please don’t take rejection personally. Please don’t take hurt personally. Please don’t take not being seen, not being heard, or understood, personally. Don’t take a lack of reciprocity, personally. Folks are operating within their own value systems, from their own standards. It is daily, constant work, going through the trials and tribulations of our living — it is up to us, remembering that it is all ego, and that taking things personally creates barriers to growth, warmth, and love; it allows resentment to creep in. So, every day is an opportunity for me to look within and ask “where is the ego in this? How can I remove it?”
You owe it yourself, before anyone else, to be as magical, as loving, as driven, as light-carrying, and as fantastic as you know you can, deserve to, shall and will be. The spaces you are choosing to inhabit are ownable.