When Resistance Provides Strength in the Pursuit of Valor

This is another in the series of Mindful Moments which are written to guide us to think about what’s important for us to remember or keep-top-of-mind as we move through our week of personal activities and professional work.

Recently the news is filled with reports about the resistance that U.S. citizens are showing toward some of the recent pieces of legislation or regulatory actions on healthcare, the environment, and immigration. This resistance is not surprising as world history has long revealed strong movements, both open and underground, that were in opposition to monarchies, democracies, wars, ideologies, injustices, societal norms or inequities, etc.

While piqued by current events, my thoughts about resistance are not broadly directed to what is happening within the U.S. or other parts of the world, as sobering or somber as current world strife may be.

My thoughts about resistance are more self-directed and intended to guide me and those with whom I live and work. Resistance for me is about taking a stand and not stepping back from that which I know I must follow or do, right now.

Since childhood I sought to carry out or honor the expectations, desires or requests of parents, teachers, friends, professional colleagues, employers, etc. I have benefited from doing so. I graduated at the top of my class in high school, attended a fantastic university (Colgate), successfully navigated the corporate technology ranks at a company like Nasdaq, and have been a business owner for 12 years.

So, yes, I did diligently strive to meet expectations, obligations and requirements in both my personal and professional life. Though when I look back what I am most proud of are those times when others wanted me to do something that would cause me to step back from my own position or belief, but I didn’t and instead did what I knew to be the right thing.

I would like to tell you two stories when I found myself questioning if I should or shouldn’t do that which I was told to do. One is from my high school years and the other is from my time managing a technology department at Nasdaq. You can listen to these stories here:

Being a member of National Honor Society. [Runtime 3:28]

Firing an employee who had given his all but was ‘burned out.’ [Runtime 3:40]

In both my stories, I’ve recounted how I found myself in situations where others had told me to take a particular action for what seemed to be more for the good of the organization rather than the person most affected.

When confronted with others’ demands or expectations, what do you do? How have you handled these situations? Have you stepped back from what you knew to be the ‘true’ course for yourself or others, or have you stated with strength what you believe and what you will do, even if it resists that which others ask of or tell you to do or say?

I am today much more often staying the course of what I know to be right for me to do. It is often not the easier or more conventional — expected — path to take, but it is mine.

Knowing that I can resist, in a positive or affirming manner, is what I want to keep in mind this week.

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Tassey is a former IT executive who has worked for the federal government, the Nasdaq Stock Market and as a consultant to non-profit associations. Today she is owner of Level Up Solutions and works with entrepreneurs and small business owners ready to take a hard look at where they are today and plan for future business development based on strong value propositions and strategic solutions. She strives to position her clients to attain foundational and sustainable growth, operational management and revenue.