Boo hoo you. What you are producing is the usual “I’m a victim” trope. Know you aren’t. You’re a white guy from a council house/estate. Big deal. It is the modern equivalent of having to walk to school through snow every day, even in July, uphill both ways. And, yep, Mom was single.
But you are racist and sexist. “My best friend is black/brown/Jewish/Muslim” pick the victimhood you are claiming is the standard cover for racist comments.
Just as “My girlfriend is a strong woman” is the standard cover for sexism.
All that is preceded or followed by sexist racist claims that you want to get away with.