Relationships That Have Defined My Identity Over Time

Kamga Tchassa
May 17 · 2 min read
Photo by Li Wubin on Unsplash

lthough this episode was recorded months ago, what I said in it still rings true to me in many ways: my love for family, the work I’ve had to do to get better at communicating, as well as the boundaries I have learned and the mentors who have led me.

I considered myself an introvert who didn’t need people as much and that really made me see myself differently. I might even go as far as to say that nearly every bad decision I made that impeded the relationships in my life were as a result of how I saw myself.

With time, I am learning to let go of many of those bad habits. It still hurts when someone thinks I’m pretending or when I lose a friend, but it’s no longer just about me; they too have a role to play in it. It takes two to tango, they say.

In this episode, I go on a rant about these facets of my relationship including family, siblings, parents, and mentors. I attempt to provide an answer to: “how do you find mentors?” Of course, I do a terrible job and go on a tangential rant which I chose to let be because I believe you’ll find value in it. I also wonder if you have a best friend because I talk about my buddy Tsi, and how high school was a major change for me. Plus, I’d love to know if you think it’s really possible to have a relationship with 5000 people on Facebook.

Do you ever do things to please people? What is your “space of commonality”? When do you need to be intentional in your relationships?

This episode was inspired by questions from Bate-Epey Ebai Tarkang, Amy, Miss Bosieh , Diana, Elvira, NJI PHILEMON NGANG, Tcheutchoua Steve, and Tatianna Nkofo

Question of the day:

What Relationships have defined you?


Podcasts mentioned in this episode: The Unmistakable Creative Podcast, The James Altucher Show

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