So you’re frustrated with life. Here’s the solution.

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“Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning do to do afterward.”

― Kurt Vonnegut Jr.

We’ve all been there. We plod through life with a smile and a determined heart then one morning we wake up, and we’re angry. Not angry, more like frustrated.

We look at the last few years and the hope that we’ve held onto and the hard work that we’ve put in, and we’re deeply hurt by the lack of progression.

It’s not that we are unrealistic. Far from it! We are the sensible kind. The kind who understand that time and chance happen to them all.

We’re not looking for overnight success.

No, we’re ready to put in the work, to put in the years, to take a pay cut to gain the necessary experience, to work after hours on our dream.

We’re not weaklings.

We understand that there’s no substitute for backbreaking work.

So when we wake up, and the reality of what our lives have failed to turn into slaps us in the face, frustration is a more than reasonable reaction.

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Why are you frustrated with life?

You’re frustrated because you’ve realized that for some people, playing the long game doesn’t mean working hard for a few years. For some of us, playing the long game means grinding for more than half a decade.

How many of these sentiments have you heard more than once?

“It takes three years for your business to reach profitability.”

“Once you build your platform, success is guaranteed.”

“Impress your boss, and you will get promoted.”

On and on it goes and it’s not all false. These sentiments hold true for a particular group of people who started at a given time but not for the rest of us. Why?

Because most of the advice that we read online is obsolete.

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The world is changing so fast that the rules for launching a blog or starting a company last year, don’t hold true today. And so while you might follow the recommended steps diligently and put in your two or three years, you’ll likely be disappointed.

So what’s the solution?

You need to adjust your expectations. Wildly adjust them.

Allow me to help you by giving you sound advice that you can bank on.

  • It may take less or more than three years for your business to reach profitability. And even when you do:
Sustaining profitability in these fast-changing markets, is a whole other ball game.
  • You may build a platform, but that is no guarantee of success. And even if it were:
Building a platform is a painfully slow experience in a world where social media gives everyone a platform.
  • Impressing your boss is no guarantee of promotion. You’ve got to recognize that:
Company profits and competing employees are always a factor.

These are the hard truths that we must face but don’t give up. It’s just the way the world is now.

Things are getting progressively more challenging, and it’s not fair but then again when have things ever been fair?

Just have a conversation with anyone over the age of seventy, and they’ll tell you of a different time that you can’t even begin to imagine navigating.

So have some perspective.

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Your frustration is justified, but I’ve just given you advice that will help you readjust your expectations and start again.

Now that you know that it’s probably going to take a while, you need to find a more manageable approach.

You’ll get there in the end, and it will be worth it.

Just don’t remain miserable and frustrated in the process.

I’ll leave you with a great quote.

“Indeed, this life is a test. It is a test of many things — of our convictions and priorities, our faith and our faithfulness, our patience and our resilience, and in the end, our ultimate desires.”― Sheri L. Dew.

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