I always feel like a Bad Woman when I read these kinds of things because I really feel like my husband and I spend about the same amount of time on housework, and the result is that we’re kind of messy. and we don’t even have kids yet. But I just don’t care that much? And neither does he? Equity through apathy. I think I put more effort towards emotional labor-y things like organizing things to do with our friends, while he handles things like paying the bills.