I find tights to be way more comfortable than pants — they move with me and don’t gape at the waist (I am a size or two larger in the hips than in my waist, classic pants pitfall). Tights are a little annoying to get on but once they’re on, they feel like a second skin. Maybe you are buying a size too small? I find the height/weight size charts to be only somewhat accurate. Tights should not be as constricting as Spanx-like shapewear. I really like Hue opaque tights (Nordstrom Rack usually has great deals) and BootTights — they have socks sewn into them!! Great for boots.