Valentine’s Day Message, 2017

Every year, from here on out, I will send out a Valentine on the meaning of Love. As this has been a critically important year in the world, bringing to the attention many of the world’s greatest struggles, it is necessary to keep in mind what was already present in the heart.

I am going to keep this very short as I think that will be more useful. I will first leave you two quotations from Vladimir Solovyov on the meaning of Love as it pertains to romance and sexuality, and then one more as it pertains to death. Both of these come from his wonderful and provocative book, The Meaning of Love.

The meaning and worth of love, as a feeling, is that it really forces us, with all our being, to acknowledge for ANOTHER the same absolute central significance which, because of the power of our egoism, we are conscious of only in our own selves. Love is important not as one of our feelings, but as the transfer of all our interest in life from ourselves to another, as the shifting of the very center of our personal life. This is characteristic of every kind of love, but predominantly of sexual love; it is distinguished from other kinds of love by greater intensity, by a more engrossing character, and by the possibility of a more complete overall reciprocity. Only this love can lead to the real and indissoluble union of two lives into one; only of it do the words of Holy Writ say: ‘They shall be one flesh,’ i.e., shall become one real being.


True spiritual love is not a feeble imitation and anticipation of death, but a triumph over death, not a separation of the immortal form from the mortal, of the eternal from the temporal, but a transfiguration of the mortal into the immortal, the acceptance of the temporal into the eternal. False spirituality is a denial of the flesh; true spirituality is the regeneration of the flesh, its salvation, its resurrection from the dead.

Nikolai Fyodorov, the Great Saint of my Heart, once said of the paradox and hypocrisy of philosophers, “How unnatural it is to ask, ‘Why does that which exists, exist?’ and yet how completely natural it is to ask, ‘Why do the living die?”

Indeed. Why? We await the abolition of death not only in the hereafter, but here.

Resurrection from death through the power of love is the essential meaning of Love. Two bodies becoming one flesh is the effective meaning of it here in this life. Think on these two things as you move throughout the next year.

Until then, Happy Valentine’s Day.

Love, and do what you will.