Happily Ever After? Maybe Not.
Some find, some don’t. And that should be okay.
Have you ever wanted to live happily ever after?
Of course, you have. Who doesn’t?
But maybe not everyone does. And that’s okay.
If you are single, there are some lines you must be familiar with. Put yourself out there. There’s someone out there for you. You can’t do life alone.
But then you meet this supposed someone and two weeks into the talking stage, you are bored and you’d rather just be alone, but you can’t because there’s this need to find a partner and live happily ever after.
But here’s the thing: not everyone will get their Happily Ever After. I know what you’re thinking: “But I’m going to meet my prince charming, and we’re going to live happily ever after!” Well, maybe not. And that’s okay!
I mean, sure, it would be a nice way if. But there are so many ways to find happiness in this life, even if you don’t have a perfect relationship with your partner. In fact, some people find it easier to be happy when they’re single and making their way through the world than when they have someone else around them who makes them feel less confident about themselves.
So why do we insist on pushing these ideals so hard? Why do we expect everyone to meet their soul mate? And then constantly make them feel guilty, and ashamed because you think they are missing out because they are not open to dating?
Well, I beg to differ, it’s okay if your definition of happily ever after isn’t walking down an aisle with a Prince Charming/Cinderella waiting at the other end of the aisle— it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you! It just means you’re different from other people. And again, that’s okay!
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that people don’t deserve to love or be loved. But what if it doesn’t always have to be romantic? What happened to the love of family? The love of friends?
I think maybe it is time we redefine happily ever after. Maybe it’s time to let go of the idea that everyone has a perfect partner out there just waiting for them to find each other. Maybe it’s time to accept that sometimes the love we get from family and friends is just enough to keep us going, and maybe it is time to understand and accept that some people aren’t meant to be in relationships at all.
Sometimes, “Happily Ever After” means different things to different people. You might be able to make a lot of money, get married, have kids and live in a big house. Or maybe your definition of “happy” means having close friends who love you no matter what, or travelling around the world every time you feel like it, or even something as basic as being able to sleep in on a Monday morning.
So, the next time you meet someone whose definition of happily ever after doesn’t fit into yours, don’t simply assume that they’re wrong — or even worse: that there’s something wrong with them for not wanting what you think they should want!
The point is that some people may never find the happiness they’re looking for in a relationship and that shouldn’t stop them from finding happiness in other aspects of life.
People, especially women, should not have to feel bad for deciding to spend their lives alone. It is fine. Just because a woman has chosen not to marry and/or have children does not mean that she is unhappy, unsuccessful, or unloved. She has made different choices from many other women, and that is okay.
Until next time, yours in figuring out this thing called life, That Ordinary Girl ✌
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