I get this more than anything I have ever read on Medium. The first is that the “bloom where your planted” mentality, though it works for some people, is not the only answer. That your happiness is solely dependent on your state of mind, and that place is not a factor is the same mentality as when people used to advise staying in a marriage to a miserable or abusive person. You most likely have dodged a bullet with these guys that want to keep you tethered.I hope you have a wonderful time where ever you go. It’s a big beautiful world and you may meet someone that sees it the same way as you.