What brings me to the conversation? Is an attempt to learn, sincerely. Since, puberty,well, more accurately seventh grade, I have fought my weight (I am 50 years old). In the eighth grade my best friend (who was so pretty) said, “Oh, you are going to be our big girl.” That forever changed me. I quickly went on a diet and lost weight before I went to High School. I never really got too heavy again. After having my kids, I struggled a little but eventually dropped the weight. Even now, I am relatively thin, although, I say relatively and others call me tiny. You need to understand, I see my butt as big and my thighs as “thunder thighs”. I consider those a few of my weak spots.

Therefore, my question ( I have friends (close friends) that are heavier than me, actually my two best buddies) are you saying I shouldn’t discuss my body concerns with my two best buddies? Like now, I am trying to tone my flabby arms and legs. For example, if I discuss with them these new exercises that I am trying and kind of like, they will think I am insinuating something about their weight? Gosh,that is unfortunate. I love my two best buddies and their body issues are their concern or not, why talking about my body concerns would make them feel I am actually making a statement about them? I guess I was not thinking? But then again, isn’t that inaccurate. Maybe,sometimes it is truly about perception. Maybe,the other person is reading into a conversation something that isn’t even there but what I am starting to understand as I write this totally long response is I shouldn’t discuss my body concerns with anyone heavier than me,just in case…. I rather not hurt someone than talk about something that isn’t all that important. And, that is easy to do, there are plenty of other topics to gab about :)