Cheater

A friend posted this theme. It is based on a joke that went viral on the internet.

I whipped up this cartoon right away. Then felt a bit like a cheater using someone else’s gag.

Ok, this is my interpetation.

It must be horrible having to date, Seeking a proper mate, or just someone with whom to go to the movies.

It has got to suck.

Often, returning from recovery meetings, I grab my wife and just hold her.

“Thank you for sticking with me. Don’t let me go.”

It is sad, when a young man looks at us and says, “you are still on your first marrage?” Why should this be abnormal?

One of the talks we had here a the Celebrate Recovery West Coast Summit was “the Power Of the Other” by Dr. Henry Cloud. (If the book comes near as good as his talk it will be well worth the price.)

He told us of the importance of having relationships, the right relationship with the right person. I know this to be a fact having witnessed hundreds of recovered lives. The ones “who make it” (recover from life destroying habits like drugs) do so with trusted friends at their side.

But, it is so hard to find said friends. That is one of the things I love about my recovery family: I have a good idea what they are about.

We are on an even playing field as we are all messed up.

At the same time, I discourage seeking romance in recovery, it does not work.

So what advice do I have? Communication. Seek someone with whom you might be able to talk.

Tall order, good luck.

Then there is the spritual aspect. I learned to love my wife much deeper when I returned to my faith.

As a Christian I tell people; look for someone who loves God first, above all things, even above you.

As an AA guy, I believe this is good advice, however you understand your higher power.

Even if you cheat and use someone else’s viral internet idea.