This is a kind, big-hearted sentiment, and likely true some of the time. But not always. There are plenty of people who feel just fine about themselves while hating and demonizing others virulently. Those folks simply don’t see refugees, or black people, or anyone that isn’t just like them as real people, essentially. It’s the same mentality that leads to thinking that enslaving people is good for them, that your own rightness is unquestionable and your actions divine in their goodness. That is as much at the heart of what is happening in America as people that are broken and dysfunctional due to stranglehold of white maleness.