A Few Truths About Divorced Women
They’re more than their scars.
Marriage is a serious commitment, full of promise and hope. When a marriage ends, the breakup leaves painful scars that are very particular.
Every divorced woman has her own story, but there are a few truths about divorced women that are nearly universal. These truths come from overcoming pain, growing, and challenging societal expectatiations.
Divorced women don’t all “just need” a man
And they won’t all jump into bed with man just because “they’ve had a penis before.” This is a misconception about divorced women which comes from centuries of History and that, sadly, still lingers on today.
The advent of divorce brought about the worry that divorced women, having been introduced to sex in marriage, but no longer having a husband to have sex with — and not being dignified by widowhood — would then go on to become “easy” women of loose morals.
It makes sense, doesn’t it? If they’ve had a penis before, they’ve lost their virginal innocence. Without a husband to satisfy them, it only made sense for them to need a man. Desperately.
Too many divorced women throughout history have had to deal with unwanted sexual advances. Even today, some men seem to think that divorced women are universally down to fuck.
In some minds, it seems to go like, “well, I’m not ruining anything. Besides, she probably misses it.”
In reality, a lot of divorced women don’t need a man — whether for sex or anything else. Divorce has a way of teaching independence, self-reliance, and how to be ok with being by yourself.
The assumption that divorced women (or all women) just “need to get laid” is as insulting as it is innacurate.
They aren’t all desperate
See above.
While there are desperate people everywhere, the assumption that most divorced women are desperate makes absolutely no sense.
The assumption that they are desperate for companionship, partnership, and a second husband is based on the erroneous idea that a woman always loses when it comes to divorce.
The assumption that divorced women are all lonely, emotionally broken, and financially unstable is a gross generalization born of prejudice. Divorced women have issues, but who doesn’t?
Anyone can experience spells of loneliness, emotional fragility, and financial instability, even while part of a mostly happily married couple.
The mistake is to assume that divorced women are all chronically lonely, emotionally broken, and financially unstable, which would make them desperate.
They aren’t any of those things.
They’ve seen some shit — so they’re not about to buy just any lame excuse
Divorce is complicated, and there are many factors that lead to the end of a marriage. It’s extremely rare that one person is the absolute victim, and the other the absolute villain.
Regardless of what exactly happened between a couple, it’s not surprising that divorce brings up a few trust issues. Marriage is, after all, a promise of being together until the end of your days, and the weight of that broken promise can’t be underestimated.
Apart from broken promises, which might make them more cautious when it comes to trusting new partners, divorced women have seen some shit.
They’ve seen a lot of questionable behavior, they’ve heard their fair share of lame excuses, and they’ve been taken for granted more times than they’d like to admit.
They’ve learned to smell bullshit from a mile away.
If anything, divorce has made them stronger
Divorce represents major change. Getting divorced feels like your world is falling apart, but there are also feelings of relief, joy, and excitement.
After the pain of heartbreak, there’s the joy of starting over. After learning so many hard lessons, there is the knowledge that everything you’ve been through has made you stronger than you’ve ever been before.
That’s what divorced women experience: becoming stronger than they ever thought possible, despite how badly it seems like it’s all falling apart.
When you meet a divorced woman, you meet someone who’s not so easily scared by loneliness, who’s not terribly afraid of being abandoned, and who knows how to take care of herself.
