On chosen names and titles, and how they play a role in kink and sex work — When the name Stormy Daniels hit the headlines in the states, there was an undercurrent of understanding that everyone in the country accepted without question: Stormy Daniels is a performance name. Everybody knows that. So are Lex Steele and Rocco. We’ve probably also played the school-age game of What’s Your…

A look into bringing up kink with your not-so-kinky SO — Let’s dive right into it: As self-defined kinksters, we’ve all had our vanilla exchanges, and a fair few of us have probably lamented; “Damn, I wish this person were kinky.” They very well could be, except neither of you knows it yet… How do we successfully guide the uninitiated through…

All You Need To Know About BDSM Aftercare — It’s Saturday night with your play partner, and you’ve just ended a scene that fulfilled all your fantasies: You were brought to your edge and back, experiencing things you’ve never felt before… and then, it’s over. Now, what? The mood is sinking, and you sink with it. …

Tips and resources to start your Kinbaku journey — If you’re anything like me, you find the beautiful form of a body in rope, artfully twisted, contorted, and suspended, an undeniable delight. Perhaps one you’d even like to learn? However, the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step, and if that step is a fraction of…

When masochistic submissive and straight-and-narrow vanilla collide — I like to quote the comedian Erin Judge on the day I met my future husband: “When I met my life partner, it was like Magic…the Gathering.” It’s true. We met at a nerdy card game event and giggled our way through the whole thing. …

The bare-bones basics for navigating your first scene safely, plus some peeks at considerations for more advanced play — You’ve imagined this night for years. You and your adventurous playmate have discussed, negotiated, and finally decided to give BDSM a go. You’ve explored your fantasies, read some guides, and picked out a few fun toys. Now, you’re standing before each other, and the play is about to begin. …

A look into the realm of pain and the lessons we learn through BDSM exchanges — When I started writing this, I began with dominance and submission. Delving into these things felt approachable; who doesn’t contain aspects of dominant and/or submissive energies within? But when I tried to tackle pain as a subject, I had to pause. With it came a silly, yet obvious realization: Not…

How remote vibrator play is perfect for combating the lockdown blues — Every cam girl seems to have one. That’s what caught my attention at first. It looked like a cute little pink antenna poking out from pussy lips all over the net. I was more than curious. When sex is your job, you take your tools seriously. …

An exploration into kink and the life skills we can learn there — There are a lot of traits that are instantly recognized in a generally happy person; relatable, easy-going, willing to listen, willing to compromise, uncomplaining. …