Sigh. Homophobes and your OBSESSION w/ <i>sex</i>. Being gay is NOT about sex. It’s about LOVE — -who you fall in love with, who you want to spend your life with. Spousal intimacy is just a PART of “spending your life with” — -I don’t know why this is so difficult for you to understand.
“What do you think Jesus response would be were this woman to go directly to Him and ask him face to face if it would be OK if she could have sex with another woman?”
Why not look to Jesus’s <i>example</i>? “Greater love hath no one, than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends”. Your spouse is, first and foremost, your closest lifelong intimate <i>friend</i>. “Amber, can you lay down your life — -ALL aspects of your life — -for your friend? Can you cleave to her solely, forsaking all others? ‘In sickness and in health, for better for worse’?”