Even when you know the decision must be made and you must take that step, you still act reluctant… eventually giving in to your certain comfort.
Just knowing the importance of a decision isn’t sufficient to get you going.
If it was, that dude wouldn’t have spent a decade in a job that he never really liked. That woman wouldn’t have been in that relationship where she wasn’t happy. Those people would have gotten together and started a business. That person would have laced up the boot and worked harder fearing the consequences.
Some things are important for progress and happiness — but they are not sufficient to convince you to pop that comfort bubble.
So, knowing what needs to be done is only one piece — a smaller piece at that — of the puzzle. The bigger piece is knowing how to talk yourself into that uncomfortable decision.
A rather simple solution here is to remind yourself how small our lives are, how small the world is and how it’s all going to end. What this does is put things into perspective.
We’re uncomfortable leaving a place — when life itself is temporary.
We fear changing jobs — when life itself is uncertain.
We fear moving cities — when the world is so small and different places so similar that it doesn’t really matter.
We don’t want to leave a person fearing breakdown and loneliness — when life is so short and there are not enough “tomorrow” and “in the future” to make yourself happy.
You are going to die. Does that not make you want to pop that comfort bubble to venture something uncomfortable and exciting that might lead you to better places.
You are going to die. Even if things go bad, does it matter in the face of impending mortality?
If this was your last day, would you still choose your comfort and certainty of the moment OVER the excitement of uncertain possibilities?
If this was your last day, would you still stay in the same job, place, and relationship? Would you still not take the leap of faith in that decision?
Whenever you feel unlikely to take that essential decision, ask such questions no matter how rhetorical or flimsy they sound. Go through some of the fundamental realities of life and death to bring things into perspective.
You will find it easier to take that decision.
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