Here are some examples how these notions of being ‘good’ can affect someone’s adult life: working overtime so you can show your boss how dedicated and willing to sacrifice you are — meanwhile hating your boss for not acknowledging it; being overly cooperative with coworkers or family members at your expense — while being frustrated for not standing up for yourself at the same time; putting everyone else’s needs before your own — but being resentful deep inside because no one sees and values how far you are stretched.