Published in BJ’s This or That·PinnedMember-onlyI Write Like It’s My JobLoving every minute of my new 9–5, 24/7 — It’s Sunday and I just can’t help myself. I’m making pancakes — more like burning pancakes — while searching for an image to go with my next installment of TMI, a sex Q&A I created for Sensual: An Erotic Life. I don’t know when the last time was I had…Writing3 min readWriting3 min read
Published in BJ’s This or That — The Gathering Table·PinnedMember-onlyIt’s My ToT-Day — BJI’m BJ of BJ’s ToT! The Mistress of Ceremonies, Brett Jenae — I can talk that way, can’t I? I mean, it’s my birthday after all. Let’s be clear though, in my house, I don’t just get a birthday. I take the whole damn month. The reasons for this are few but mighty: 1. I have anxiety and I am mega triggered…Introduction9 min readIntroduction9 min read
Published in BJ’s This or That·2 hours agoMember-onlyFebruary Writing Opportunities to Bust Writer’s BlockAny excuse to write is a good one, but these writing ops will have you screaming “MORE” — Uninspired? Check out these writing opportunities to get your creative juices flowing. Bet you can’t choose just one! Seasonal Finds (On Love) Non-love offerings further down BJ’s This or That Challenges (x3) Valentine’s Day Edition BJ’s This or That Challenge: Valentine’s Edition “L” is for the way you’ll love this challengemedium.comWriting3 min readWriting3 min read
Published in BJ’s This or That·17 hours agoMember-onlyI Gave Up on Love and Here’s What HappenedI said goodbye to whiny, passion-driven, fairy-tale love and found a lover to last — When I was asked for my number by the man who is my partner today on the day I decided to take a break from online dating, I was hesitant. But then I thought, why does it matter? If I give him my number and he falls off the face…Relationships4 min readRelationships4 min read
Published in BJ’s This or That — The Gathering Table·1 day agoMember-onlyBJ’s This or That: Bro-lentine’s Day Challenge (For Dudes)And the sultry minxes who love them — I don’t know when Bro-lentine’s Day is. But when BJ got asked by Vincent Pisano for a Galentine’s Day ToT Challenge for men, she said, “Why the hell not?” Can you handle this? Can you take one more ToT? Pretty please, with some big love on top? Y’all asked for…Bjs This Or That5 min readBjs This Or That5 min read
Published in BJ’s This or That·1 day agoMember-onlyDon’t Be Afraid to Be Your Own HeroStop waiting to be discovered and do this instead — Don’t wait for success to happen to you. Sometimes you just need to be your own superhero by taking actions that feel best to you in the present without questioning whether it is the best or rightest idea. Take a risk. Be authentic. Be your own hero. …Bjs This Or That4 min readBjs This Or That4 min read
Published in BJ’s This or That — The Gathering Table·1 day agoMember-onlyBJ’s This or That: Galentine’s Day Challenge (For Francophiles)Let’s celebrate by getting tucked into all things cozy chic — Living as a single woman in a large, new city rocked my 29th year. When I arrived from Michigan in Dallas, Texas, I got my first solo apartment and I thought that there was nothing that could top it. …Francophile5 min readFrancophile5 min read
Published in Breast Stories·2 days agoMember-onlyBJ’s Hello Kitty Bandaids — A Breast StoryAre these safe for boob skin? — Despite my loathing the idea of guilty pleasures because I don’t like it when “guilty” is put anywhere — especially when it’s in front of “pleasure” — I have a story that my breasts are itching to tell. Ever since whatever day Keeley Schroder’s January challenge begged this question (and…Breasts5 min readBreasts5 min read
Published in BJ’s This or That·2 days agoMember-onlyHow to Title Articles: 10 Medium Title Tips for Growing PhenomsResearched results for marketing your hard work — A few days ago I spent about 8 hours scouring the Medium archives for advice. Since starting full-time on Medium in October, I can see the difference in my writing for the better. …Writing6 min readWriting6 min read
Published in BJ’s This or That·2 days agoMember-onlyHow Mothers Can Inspire Rich Writing CareersThe sound and shape of my mother’s reading voice made me the writer I am today — My mother and I do not have the best history. Our relationship today is better than it has ever been, in part because we are older and wiser and have learned to appreciate one another beyond our destined familial roles and in part because we live our lives a nation…Motherhood5 min readMotherhood5 min read
