Why Surrounding Yourself with Positive People is Paramount to Your Happiness

I’m officially allergic to people who inhale and exhale negativity on a daily basis, ignorant to the fact that what they are emitting is toxic. Expressing your feelings is paramount to a healthy mind, but when it spirals into a destructive pity party and transcends therapeutic purposes, you’re effectively manufacturing negativity and I, quite frankly, do not want any bar of it. I know, I know, I’m complaining about complaining, but hear me out.

I’m certainly not one to ruthlessly cut people out of my life and deny them the opportunity to change — I will always try to feed the pessimists and serial complainers a little perspective, but if they’re going to actively spit it out and shine a magnifying glass over the most minuscule of problems that barely satisfy the definition of problem, then there’s not much else I can do. It’s not that they can’t see the silver lining — it’s that they refuse to see it, let alone digest it when fed.

Having ridden the wave of mental illness, I understand completely that the darkness can cloud your thoughts and consume you, but if there’s anything that I’ve learnt from my personal struggles — you’ve got to want to help yourself. All the words of wisdom and abundance of positive vibes cannot overturn your perspective in one swift motion — only you have the power to make the permanent perspective switch. And I did, so I do feel as though I have some level of authority on the issue.

The people you engage with on a regular basis have an enormous impact on your personal wellbeing, so it’s important that you cultivate relationships with those who radiate positivity and enrich your life. Avoid surrounding yourself with people who subscribe to a pessimistic philosophy — these interactions will only subtract from your state of contentment and potentially plague your perspective. Just as laughter and joy is infectious, misery loves company.

Consider the people you most frequently associate with. Do they lift you up or bring you down? Posing the big question is necessary if you want to create an ecosystem within which you can grow and thrive. Your happiness is everything in this lifetime, why detract from it?