How I learned to find my life purpose
You’re tired of the same routine.
Work 9 to 5. Hours on Facebook. Netflix. Same nights out with friends. You’re not necessarily unhappy but you feel like something is missing.
You’ve read the stories of guys and girls who quit their jobs and travel the world. Your friend just started the hottest new startup in town. Your other friend is passionate about brewing his own beer and is always talking about how exciting and fulfilling it is. Your neighbor is a successful artist in her spare time.
Tony Robbins is telling you to find your passion. Les Brown is telling you to do what makes you excited to leap out of bed in the morning.
Has everyone found their life purpose but you?!
I don’t think so. Trust me. It just seems that way.
Despite the stories you hear, it’s much harder than it might seem. Some people spend large portions of their lives trying to discover their true selves, passions and purpose… and never truly do. Others have simply given up and allow their current circumstances to become their long term vision.
At the same time, our society has become obsessed with envisioning, planning and observing success and passion. It is all the rage nowadays to talk about what you’d love to do if xyz didn’t stand in the way. Self-help books sales are through the roof. Motivational quotes (the cliché kind, not the PRSUIT kind) are passed around as golden beacons of hope.
But, from my experience, its all talk!
It stops there. Too few of us take the action necessary to actually discover our true selves so as to better find what our role and purpose in the world actually is.
I don’t proclaim to be an expert on the subject and I am certainly not a self-help guru, but I think the reason for this is that…
We are confused about what it actually means to find our life purpose.
I am convinced that the key to finding your purpose is to actually stop looking so definitively for it. Your life purpose is not cut and dry or black and white. Rather, it is a directional feeling that you possess and project as you leave your impact on the world.
I think that we need to simplify this “process of finding one’s purpose” by boiling it down to what really matters. Doing so will allow you to arrive at a directional conclusion without forcing it upon yourself.
Start now by asking yourself the following question:
How do you view your life? If you’re looking back at your life, what would your reaction be?
I have found the easiest way to envision this is to think of what your life perspective is.
What do I mean by this? Let me explain.
If you think about it, you already possess an innate measure of understanding as to whether what you or someone else is doing right now is what should be done. Does it fit your worldview? Is it moral? Is it just? Is it fair? This is your moral barometer or gutcheck framework and while you innately apply it to everyday decisions and understanding, you can also apply it to your life purpose — it’s just within a different context and all you just need to conjure it up.
This is your life perspective and it acts as a sort of ‘checks and balances’ towards what you are doing.
Just as you judge actions according this to barometer, you can also judge the direction of your life. This in turn inches you closer to finding your passions and purpose.
Think about something you did this week and then ask yourself this.
Is this what you “should” be doing?
Quickly. Go with what your gut reaction is and then, regardless of your answer, ask yourself… how did you determine that? That right there is your life perspective.
Call it a perspective. Call it a viewpoint. Whatever you call it, it is the overarching way that you see yourself and your place in the world.
Just as you analyze an action as being moral or fair, you should analyze your life with the same strategy. Is this action challenging? Does it inspire me? Is it fulfilling?
These types of life perspectives can be applied to help you decide what actions you should take. This viewpoint will fundamentally dictate what you should be doing with your time and will help you arrive at your life purpose as a result.
Here’s the exercise I want you to do.
Take 1 minute, close your eyes, and ask yourself: What is my perspective on life?
What does this look like? Keep it high level. Keep it short. Don’t get specific. Here are some example answers:
- I want to be challenged
- I want to step outside my comfort zone
- I want to experience other points of view
- I wan to surround myself with inspiration
- I want to be a role model
- I want to be creative
- I want to inspire
Remember this. Write it down. Repeat it to yourself every day. More importantly, use this perspective to find your purpose. Instead of trying to follow the usual course of forced questioning via “what am I passionate about?” questioning, use this life perspective to guideyou to a life purpose. It will lead you there… trust me.
By asking yourself this question when at a crossroads, you will be gradually moving yourself closer to your greater purpose. It will equip you to understand how your perspective powers your purpose.
I realized this process about a year ago. I was trying to force passions on myself without taking into consideration the fact that I could organically come to a conclusion by simply falling in-line with my life perspective.
Along the way to fully understanding this, I created PRSUIT and its tagline of perspective that inspires. Little did I know that the stories I wrote and curated would begin to influence my understanding of my own life perspective and ultimately allow me to craft my own. This perspective has since guided me closer to discovering my true life purpose.
I learned that my life perspective was that of I want to experience other points of view and that whenever I came to a crossroads and asked myself this, it became quite clear whether I should proceed or deviate.
Whenever you don’t know what to do — lean on this perspective to decide the best course of action. No matter how much input our loud world is throwing your way, knowing the answer to this will make your individual path and purpose much clearer.
This article originally appeared on PRSUIT.com