The Breakup Chronicles — Second Entry

When you break up, there are only a handful of things that only your ex can understand, because their experience is somewhat similar.

One of those things is intimacy. Not necessarily sex, but also kisses, hugs, someone to come home to and so much more.

With the sudden lack of intimacy, there’s also the inevitable event that your ex will become intimate with someone else.

There are more fun things to think about for visual minds like yours truly.

My situation is a bit different, since she is still intimate with the person who’s like 3% the reason for the split.

And that makes me feel lonely.

But, this too shall pass.

When those thoughts come up, there are a few things I try to remember myself of.

1. Your partner isn’t and never has been yours
In a culture still heavily promoting a concept of “the one”, it also promotes that you are entitled to parts of your partner’s soul and body.

But, you were with an individual. With own thoughts and feelings and hopes and desires.

2. Love is good
Expressions of love, done in a consensual way, are always good.

That shouldn’t be punished, or judged, or shamed.

She seems happy with him. And, if she is, that should be applauded, celebrated and encouraged.

3. Your pain will go away
I’d be lying if I said this is already the case for me.

But, regardless, it will get better and easier and, one day I hope to wake up and realize that I haven’t thought about it for a few days now.

This is what is helping me in my current situation and I hope that it has or will help you, should you ever find yourself in this unfortunate situation.

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