You Can’t Sleep, Because You Don’t Deserve to Sleep

Adam
5 min readJun 12, 2024

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Hi there! If you’re like me, you’ve probably found yourself tossing and turning at night, wondering why sleep just won’t come. I used to be a chronic 12am sleeper, struggling to find ways to fall asleep faster and get a good night’s rest.

After trying different tips and tricks, I finally figured out the main reason why many of us struggle to sleep.

The most common reason people struggle to fall asleep is because they haven’t exerted themselves enough during the day. People who are physically and mentally active tend to be tired by the end of the day and fall asleep easily, whereas people who are inactive may not be tired and therefore struggle to fall asleep.

After all, sleep is a way for the body to recover from exertion. If the body hasn’t exerted itself, then there is no purpose to sleep.

Why Physical and Mental Activity Matters

Think of your body as a battery that needs to be drained by the end of the day. If you haven’t used enough energy, your body won’t feel the need to recharge, making it difficult to fall asleep.

Engaging in physical activities like going to the gym, running, or even a brisk walk can significantly help in burning off that excess energy.

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But it’s not just about physical activity; mental exertion plays a crucial role too. Activities that challenge your brain, such as solving puzzles, learning new skills, or working on complex projects, also contribute to overall fatigue.

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When your brain is actively engaged throughout the day, it needs downtime to process and recover, which makes falling asleep easier.

This combined physical and mental effort ensures that by the end of the day, your body and mind are ready for rest, making it easier to fall asleep and enjoy deeper, more quality sleep.

The Concept of "Fatigue Points System"

To better understand how to expend energy, I like to use the concept of "fatigue points" Imagine each activity you do throughout the day adds fatigue points.

Your goal is to accumulate as many fatigue points as possible by engaging in activities that require substantial effort.

Consider this concept as a way to prioritize your daily activities. Activities that demand more physical or mental exertion contribute to a higher accumulation of fatigue points.

For instance, a session at the gym or working on a challenging project adds more points than passive activities like watching TV or browsing the internet.

By consciously aiming to increase your fatigue points each day, you’re essentially ensuring that your body and mind are sufficiently tired by bedtime, making a smoother transition into sleep.

This simple yet effective strategy can help you optimize your daily routine for better sleep quality and overall well-being.

Prioritizing High-Fatigue Activities

Not all activities are created equal. Some use up a lot of energy in a short amount of time, while others barely make a dent. To improve your sleep, prioritize high-energy activities like:

  • Exercise: Aim for at least 30 minutes of moderate to vigorous exercise daily. Physical activity not only tires out your body but also releases endorphins, which can promote feelings of relaxation and well-being. Bonus: Exercising outdoors exposes you to natural light, which helps regulate your circadian rhythm and promotes better sleep-wake cycles.
  • Mental Work: Engage in tasks that challenge your brain, such as solving puzzles, learning something new, or engaging in deep, focused work. Activities like these can leave you feeling mentally fatigued by the end of the day. Tip: Consider setting aside dedicated time for activities that require mental effort.
  • Productive Hobbies: Activities like gardening, meditating, or any hobby that keeps you physically and mentally engaged can be incredibly rewarding. Not only do they provide a creative outlet and a sense of accomplishment, but they also help you unwind and decompress after a busy day.

Avoiding Low-Fatigue Time Wasters

On the flip side, avoid activities that are time-consuming but low in energy expenditure:

  • Binge-watching Shows: While binge-watching shows may seem relaxing, prolonged screen time before bed can disrupt your circadian rhythm and interfere with your ability to fall asleep. The blue light emitted by screens suppresses the production of melatonin, the hormone responsible for regulating sleep, making it harder for you to feel tired and ready for bed.
  • Mindless Browsing: Spending hours on social media or watching YouTube videos may feel like a harmless way to unwind, but it can leave you feeling mentally fatigued (unproductive type) without actually expending much energy. The constant scrolling and stimulation from online content can keep your mind engaged and prevent you from fully relaxing, making it difficult to transition into sleep when bedtime rolls around.

Practical Tips to Boost Your Daily Activity

Here are some practical tips to help you increase your fatigue points:

  • Set a Routine: Establishing a daily routine that includes regular exercise and mentally stimulating activities can help ensure that you consistently engage in high-energy tasks throughout the day. By incorporating these activities into your schedule, you’re more likely to stick to them and reap the benefits of improved sleep quality.
  • Take Breaks: If you have a sedentary lifestyle, it’s essential to take short breaks throughout the day to move around and stretch your muscles. Even a brief walk or some light exercises can help counteract the negative effects of prolonged sitting and boost your energy levels. Incorporating movement breaks into your workday can also enhance productivity and focus.
  • Stay Active After Work: Instead of collapsing on the couch after a long day at work, make an effort to stay active in the evening. Whether it’s going for a walk around the neighborhood, pursuing a hobby, or learning a skill, engaging in physical and mental activities after work can help you unwind and decompress while also contributing to your overall fatigue points. By doing this you set yourself up for a better night’s sleep and a more energized start to the next day.

Conclusion:

By incorporating more physical and mental activities into your day, you can significantly improve your ability to fall asleep. It’s all about balancing your energy expenditure so that by the end of the day, your body naturally craves rest.

The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams." - Eleanor Roosevelt

Remember, the goal is to make small, manageable changes to your routine that add up to a big difference in your sleep quality. So, next time you find yourself unable to sleep, think about how you spent your day and see where you can add more activity to boost those fatigue points!

I hope these insights help you get the restful sleep you deserve. Keep experimenting with different activities and find what works best for you.

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