I believe even though we were victimized, we do not have to be victims.
Our individual mindsets play an enormous role in “the what comes next”. Painful, unfair, and unjust events happen in our lives. However, how we deal with these events can determine the outcome of our future and/or what road we are left to walk down.
I firmly believe that being victimized does not make you a victim. I personally have been victimized, but I refuse to look at myself as a victim. I identify as a survivor.
As survivors we are left hurting and struggling. Sometimes the pain is unbearable and the prospect of facing another day in such despair seem unthinkable. What many of us do not realize is that we are already on a path to healing. We have already endured the worst of it. We are now at a junction where we CAN choose which direction we go. We can curl up in a ball and give up or we can say to the person who has hurt us, “You’ve done your best to damage me, now take a seat and look at what I’m made of”.
You will notice over time that I call the person who hurt us the “real victim”. I honestly believe that they are. You see, we can make the choice to heal from what they did. We can seek help. We may even choose to build and surround ourselves with a strong support system. At the end of the day, we are the one who have survived them. We hold the power to forgive or not to forgive. And they are stuck being prisoners of their actions. They might even be forced to face the consequences of their actions. That person has to live with the knowledge of what they did for the rest of their life. No amount of punishment can give them true peace especially without our forgiveness. They might even be remorseful, but what is remorse worth without forgiveness? We, in fact, can have all the power now.
With all of this being said, ask yourself this question. Are you a victim? And if the answer is yes, ask yourself:
- What makes you a victim?
- Did someone tell you that you had to be a victim?
- Or do you believe you have to be a victim because you were victimized?
I challenge you to look deep within yourself and make the choice to be a proud survivor.