Why I decided to own my INTP personality type
I remember it so clearly. It was early last year and I was lurking on a message board I’d been a member of for some time. One of the posters was talking about a situation with a friend and not understanding why the friend wasn’t reciprocating in the relationship the same way she was. The friend wasn’t initiating with planned activities like she would have. Some others responded with how they could identity with the friend and that they really did want to get together, but the thought of initiating just didn’t enter their minds. As I read her story, I too could identify with the friend. They also mentioned that it was likely that the friend’s personality type had something to do with it. All of a sudden everybody started talking about these four letter acronyms that I had never heard of before. ESTJ, INFJ, ESFP…??? It was like they were all part of this secret society and were identified by these four special letters.
So of course, being the inquisitive type by nature, I head over to google and look up what these letters mean. I searched for ‘personality type’ and clicked the first result. I was prompted to take a test to find my personality type and figured what the heck? The result was too put it bluntly, freaky. It was like someone else had been inside my head my entire life and put these intimate thoughts out on the internet for the world to read.
I was indeed an INTP:
Introverted — an introvert has a source of energy mainly in their own internal world+
Intuition — a person believes mainly information he or she receives from the internal or imaginative world+
Thinking — a person makes a decision mainly through logic+
Perceiving — he or she is inclined to improvise and explore alternative options+
A wonderful blend of me-ness! Gotta love it.
So, of course once I find out this groundbreaking information, my first reaction is to share it with my daughter who just happened to be in the vicinity. She agreed with what she read. And then I sent a link via email to my mom. She agreed with what she read too and wanted to talk to me on the phone about the results. I shared it with my husband and….let’s just say I was underwhelmed by the response. He just doesn’t appreciate the benefit of understanding why this type of stuff I totally geek out over has any real value * sighs *. I was a bit peeved at him because if he would just absorb all the little nuggets on those pages, I think he would understand me better instead of shaking his head at me when we get into misunderstandings *ahem*, well maybe arguments. Hopefully he’ll come around in his own due time, but in the mean time, I’m not going to nag.
I think a lot of other people would take the test and look at the results with the same level of enthusiasm one would have finding out their blood type (yawns) — but not me! I marveled at the level of depth in how my personality type was described. I also reflected on my life, relationships, strengths, weaknesses, etc…..and yes, thought about the fact that the INTP mind would in fact take great pleasure in learning this type of stuff!
You want to know what the best part was that made me particularly giddy?
It was this line: “…there’s nothing they’d be more unhappy about than being “common”. INTPs pride themselves on their inventiveness and creativity, their unique perspective and vigorous intellect.”++
Yes, yes, yes! Shout it from the rooftops!
We live in a culture that encourages people to conform and that true success emanates from following what everybody else is doing. I reject that — to put it bluntly! I always have. It’s just that I never thought of myself as a “rejector”. As I mature and connect with like minded people, I find that I am much more assertive about my rejection. People like me absolutely cannot stand to be a follower. We feel stifled by conformity and cannot function well in that environment.
Learning my personality type also helped me to confirm that I was on the right track with my entrepreneurial goals. INTPs are known for their multitudes of ideas, but at the same time being paralyzed by fear of failure and analysis paralysis. I can say without a doubt that this has been my experience. If I told you how long it took me to take this project you’re currently partaking in from inception to execution, you’d probably wonder what my problem was. I had to come to the conclusion that I would never let myself live if I let this project fall to the wayside like so many other abandoned ones. My mind would never rest knowing that I know I have a huge amount of untapped potential to share with the world.
+courtesy of http://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/type
++courtesy of https://www.16personalities.com/intp-personality